What makes a non-exclusive pedophile?

skeleton-countess wrote:If I could have one wish, it would be for people to stop trying to make claims about what's "natural" and what's not natural.
My second wish would be for people to stop obsessing about reproduction and fertility. That's not what life is about. Life can be about whatever you want it to be. Nature doesn't give a s**t whether we reproduce or not.

I agree. It seems like too many people care too much about things like fertility and natural selection and things like that. It feels like people sometimes are trying to turn having kids or being attractive into some kind of religion.

The reason people should be concerned about things like pedophilia, is not because of being attracted to infertility or whether it is natural or not. But of consent and ethics and kindness. I don't like it when people talk about hebephilia and ephebophilia being much better than pedophilia, because most teenagers have secondary sex characteristics. When it's not okay for adults to have sex with teenagers, either. Just because someone has secondary sex characteristics, doesn't make it okay to have sex with them.

It seems some people use puberty as like a moral excuse. Because of fertility...
I think this is why some people don't like the distinction between pedophilia and ephebophilia. Because it sounds kind of like an excuse... like people putting emphasis about something that doesn't matter instead of consent and mental maturity.

Then again, I don't seem to be attracted to fertility. So maybe I... maybe I'm obsessed with fertility, too. :< I don't know where my feelings come from.

TaintedAgria wrote:The reason people should be concerned about things like pedophilia, is not because of being attracted to infertility or whether it is natural or not. But of consent and ethics and kindness.

This. This is absolutely right, and I endorse what you've said here 100%.

mrc123 wrote:Hey.. I find this whole exclusive and non exclusive thing quite interesting..

I am a worrying wreck atm because i think im a non exclusive all though i have no idea.

My preference above everything is guys aged 16-22, both emotionally and sexually. im 18 btw. I also find women attractive just not as much.

I occasionally see an attractive 14 year old, by that i mean their face only. Height wise i dont want a small child and also not muscle wise. Its just the face.

What i mean is.. i have been attracted to a 14 year old yes.. but not as much and definetly not as often as i find myself attracted to 16-21 dudes. What does this make me?

No, you're not a pedophile lol. Usually 14 year olds have already entered puberty, and I can find plenty of 14 year old girls attractive aswell. If anything you might have OCD.

Mustelidae wrote:If you can be sexually attracted to both prepubescent and pubescent/adult people then you are a non-exclusive pedophile

Non-exclusive pedophile is a wordy way of saying "normal"...

"Sexual Arousal and Arousability to Pedophilic Stimuli in a Community Sample of Normal Men"
GORDON C NAGAYAMA HALL

https://www.ipce.info/ipceweb/Library/9 ... ticle.html

I really wish people would stop referencing those horribly badly non-scientific studies "showing" that everyone's a pedophile, bisexual, or whatever ridiculous axe the proponents have to grind.

I am not remotely the average male in orientation. And that's fine.