Pseudopedophilia

You know of pedophilia and how a person can be attracted to the body of a child.

The term "pseudopedophile" can refer to a situational child abuser who targets children just because they're more vulnerable and available or alternatively to people who no longer have much interest in adults ostensibly due to desensitization.

However, another pertinent meaning for the term (which is actually quite similar) is someone who does not necessarily have a preferential desire for a childish body but just loves that they are a child, because of taboo or whatever.

I once thought I was just a pseudopedophile since I find pubescent features preferable but I've heard it said on this forum that there must be some true pedophilia in me somewhere to find kids attractive sexually at all.

In a nutshell, a true pedophile like a child's body in spite of their young age, a pseudopedophile is the exact opposite. But I think someone can be both.

I think that my affinity for naked child bodies (pubescent or otherwise) is a combination of non-preferential pedophilia and pseudopedophilia in the sense I've defined above, which may indeed just be a broader variant of the established meaning but with no implication of actual abuse occurring.

Any other pseuds on here?

I'm definitely non-exclusive but I don't know the extent of my hebephillic attractions. I'm definitely not fully hebephillic and lately the attractions have been fading so I'm currently very confused by this secondary attraction and how strong it is. So you think it could be caused by a combination of non-exclusivity and taboo?

I honestly did not follow your definitions.

Let's see. I am attracted to the prepubescent female form. I'll cop to there being a bit of a forbidden fruit angle that can add to the desire.

I am not a pseudo-pedophile. I do have a physical preference for prepubescent girls, but I don't see the reasons these people have for finding children attractive as less legitimate, just less meaningful based on my own experiences with people who are attracted only to the taboo nature of pedophilia or the number of years someone has been alive.

Ultimately you are the judge of what is meaningful to defining your sexuality. For some people bodies are not a large focus of their attraction whether it be pedophilia or some other sexuality, so I'm not sure if someone is a pseudo-pedophile just because their preference is not for prepubescent bodies.

I wonder how this might fit me. I neither began by viewing pubescent boys, nor do I recall any preference for any age, least of all under 16's. But I drifted towards "twink" porn, and things crept from there. Bit of a chicken and egg situation.

As an aside, with the desensitization effects of porn, I had started naturally losing interest in that stuff by the time I was caught. I discovered an over 18 site called Czech Hunter, and that became a bigger turn on. One of my favourite videos in that the guy was clearly over 20, and clearly a man. So I had come full circle.

But...

I did go with 16 yr olds on rare occasions if I happened across them on the scene. And I felt a sense of reward if they chose me. With older guys I was rewarded with money, and/or sex felt like punishment (which came to really turn me on). With guys my age and younger it seemed to be about something different.

sprooglestrewft wrote: I don't see the reasons these people have for finding children attractive as less legitimate, just less meaningful based on my own experiences with people who are attracted only to the taboo nature of pedophilia or the number of years someone has been alive.

Could you elaborate why it isn't meaningful?

I never meant to imply that one having a non-preferential attraction for children meant that they were probably a pseudopedophile, but that people who are attracted to children as or more than they are adults may motivated by reasons other than actual pedophilia in it's clinical sense.

I think it's less legitimate for many people because it is ostensibly unusual/abnormative (both to desire children and for children to do sexy stuff) and because it is frowned upon.

Sorry me post was a little tangled. In short, it's kind of like hybristohpila: you're not attracted for a physical attribute so much as knowledge of who they are and how society perceives them.

Maligan12 wrote:Could you elaborate why it isn't meaningful?

I didn't say it wasn't meaningful.

Maligan12 wrote:I never meant to imply that one having a non-preferential attraction for children meant that they were probably a pseudopedophile

I never meant to imply that you were implying that. I'm just saying attraction to bodies isn't the only defining characteristic of a sexual orientation.

Maligan12 wrote:I think it's less legitimate for many people because it is ostensibly unusual/abnormative (both to desire children and for children to do sexy stuff) and because it is frowned upon.

Well that doesn't make sense. Just because something is unusual or frowned upon does not make it less legitimate. Some of my preferences for children are unusual even among other girllovers but that does not make my feelings less legitimate.

Maligan12 wrote:In short, it's kind of like hybristohpila: you're not attracted for a physical attribute so much as knowledge of who they are and how society perceives them.

If you are saying that someone is a pseudo-pedophile because they are attracted to children based on who they are or how society perceives them opposed to their looks then I have to disagree. I think that would make someone a legitimate pedophile, but like I said before - only you know what is most meaninful when defining your sexuality.

I think I misunderstood you tremendously.

I suppose we need a definition of what legitimate means in this context. I'm using it in the sense of being socially unacceptable.

I think you're working the axiom that it is common to be attracted to children and thus the only pertinent meaning for pedophile is when one desires a child for the sake of being a child but my assumption is that most people do not desire children (at least not enough to put them on the radar).

Puberty is no barrier to my attraction. I'm primarily attracted to girls physically between the ages of about 8 or 9 up to 13 or 14. I find prepubescent girls' behaviour attractive and sexy. I find adolescent girls' behaviour attractive and sexy. What confuses me, though, is that for the really important emotions there needs to be that spark of mutual interest, which requires a degree of sexual (or perhaps merely romantic) awareness.