Residential treatment?

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Dita wrote:I'm working on getting into a residential place as well. Cause I just don't feel like getting better is possible outside of a hospital setting.

I'm feeling the same way, that I'm losing to the addiction. I don't want to get myself into the position I was in before, and I think completely separating from all my triggers (Internet, smartphone) would be very helpful.

Dkbluiis, can you really do that, though? I know I can't possibly get away from the internet (that is how I do my school work, but it is also how I get all of my support, too). I have to work really hard not to look for sex online, but one thing I've been trying to do is get into gaming so I have something to distract myself. And I also go to YouTube and watch stupid videos (like Fail videos). At least for me that seems to be helping, some.

Well that's essentially what "rehab" is for. When the addiction becomes too much and you can't fix it on your own. usually when you go to places like that your contact with the outside world is limited..you definitely won't have the opportunity to get a hold of a computer/phone, etc.

The whole idea of rehab is to take away all the temptations and be in a place where all you have to worry about is getting better.

Randi wrote:Yeah, I think that you are right, I do need a new therapist. I have been asking for a female therapist, but where I live there aren't a lot of options. But when one comes available I will ask to have her, instead.

Not to be insensitive, but specialization is more important than gender. You might just have the misfortune of not being able to find a therapist specializing in sexual addiction. An alternative, in the meantime, might be finding a support group like Sexaholic's Anonymous (SA) or Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous (SLAA). They have women-only groups, if you're not up to being open with a mixed-sex group.

I'm still investigating. It looks like there may be something available in my state.

I don't think you are being insensitive, but I do think I would feel more comfortable with a female therapist. Mostly because of myself (I am not attracted to him, but the idea of trying to have sex with him in some way has gone through my mind, not because I like him - I actually dislike him - but because I feel like I would have something on him and he would "owe" me and other reasons), but also I just don't like him and I don't think he takes me seriously, especially when I talk about sex and sex addiction.

I live in a really small area and I don't think there are people who specialize in sex addiction, let alone also take my insurance. I have looked into SAA, but they are too far away (and it also scares me to be in a group like that).

My first meeting was intimidating, especially since it had only been very recently that I had been able to verbalize my issues to another person, much less a room full of strangers.

If you don't think that getting online would lead you to temptation, SLAA has an online support group. I believe you have to download some chat software, but it might be a less intimidating option.

Thank you, actually that sounds like a better option. I would rather my family not know about it and that would be easier. But I also know I need a different therapist, too.

I'm looking at this residential place right now. the program is 42 days long and it cost 54,000 dollars O_O fun fun. i don't think therapy should cost that much but what are you gonna do..I have no choice.

I agree, it is something that should be covered by insurance or free.

-- Sun Dec 07, 2014 4:50 pm --

I'm lucky that I have good insurance, but I don't even know if rehab would be covered.