Child trapped in man's body or man with child attractions?

If somewhere along the lines in your childhood, your growth got stunted emotionally, then maybe that could explain pedophilic desires and romantic attraction to kids. If that is the case, can you grow out of your childhood?

I think that happens a lot actually. sometimes I feel like I still have the mind of a 16 year old. But then sometimes not. i don't know.

Personally I feel more grown-up than most of the adults I meet.

I still feel like a child, even though I don't know why.

I act my true age, but I don't feel that age.When I'm with people who are my age, I feel like they are much older than me.
When I am around younger people, I feel like they are my peers.

It's really strange. I just connect better with them.

I don't feel like a child. I have heard other pedophiles say that they feel like they are on the same level as the child (like they feel like they are a child, I guess), but I feel the opposite: with some kids (not all, but probably most, and all the ones I am attracted to) I feel like they are more like on the same level as me (as an adult). But I also feel paternalistic towards them. I think sometime that maybe I confuse the love you feel for a child with sexual and romantic love.

mazeoflife wrote:If somewhere along the lines in your childhood, your growth got stunted emotionally, then maybe that could explain pedophilic desires and romantic attraction to kids. If that is the case, can you grow out of your childhood?

Read my post here: post1557980.html#p1557980

I often feel like a child living in an adult's body, living in a world with "real" adults. I can go through the motions and generally make a decent living, I don't always feel a meaningful connection to it. It's like if I had my way, we'd all be in some type of Neverland rather than daily grind, bills, taxes, and overall negativity.

mazeoflife wrote:If somewhere along the lines in your childhood, your growth got stunted emotionally, then maybe that could explain pedophilic desires and romantic attraction to kids. If that is the case, can you grow out of your childhood?

Having been sexually abused as a child and become a CP offender in recent times I have some insight into this. I am part way through a science degree, so with my research skills and access to academic databases I have been looking into this in order to understand how I cam to be abused, but more importantly how I came to offend.

It does appear to me that most paedophilic thoughts center on childhood experiance. That you got trapped in your childhood, and your development was halted is absolutely something I can relate to. If we are to get to the root of your issues, and most importantly, prevent you from committing any crime, especially a contact offence, we must get to the root of what happened in your childhood.

So you say your emotional growth got stunted. Lets explore that. Why do you think that was?

cumulusjames wrote:

mazeoflife wrote:If somewhere along the lines in your childhood, your growth got stunted emotionally, then maybe that could explain pedophilic desires and romantic attraction to kids. If that is the case, can you grow out of your childhood?

Having been sexually abused as a child and become a CP offender in recent times I have some insight into this. I am part way through a science degree, so with my research skills and access to academic databases I have been looking into this in order to understand how I cam to be abused, but more importantly how I came to offend.

It does appear to me that most paedophilic thoughts center on childhood experiance. That you got trapped in your childhood, and your development was halted is absolutely something I can relate to. If we are to get to the root of your issues, and most importantly, prevent you from committing any crime, especially a contact offence, we must get to the root of what happened in your childhood.

So you say your emotional growth got stunted. Lets explore that. Why do you think that was?

Well I think it has to do with growing up in a judgmental family. My parents were very opinionated and I think that kind of trickled down to me and my 4 sisters. I think there were tight boundaries that I had to stay within in order to keep from being judged in an embarrassing manner by my siblings. I think me staying in the boundaries too much and being afraid to do something that would be outside of my families approval probably stunted my sense of personal security and just being okay with myself. I think it affected my confidence. That is probably why I am always looking for approval nowadays.

I hope therapy can help me gain a sense of security and confidence with myself which will in turn make me more confident to be in a relationship with someone my own age which will in turn make me feel romantically attracted to someone my age

This does not explain a fixation on children that has led you here. Many people refuse or are unable to grow up (look at the saggy dyed black haired ballbags the Roling Stones).

I am here for you, trust me I do care, but you need to get to the root. From what you have said, it indicates there was something that occured in your childhood which leads you to where you are now. We (and I mean you, perhaps with my encouragement) need to get at that.

Try to tie your current feelings to a particular age in your own childhood then think about what events occurred at that age?

Just list everying you can think of at that age, in a sort of stream-of-concoiusness way. We might see some revelations.