Question for non-exclusve pedophiles

cop this wrote:I doubt that those who feel that children are essentially more beautiful than adults will change such a view but so what, as long as their behaviour changes.

But this is precisely the change that re-orientation seeks to bring about. I'm surprised to see you putting forward this "hopeless" message in a post intended to claim that changing your attractions is possible.

322 isn't asking about changing his behaviors. He's asking about changing his attractions.

YouthRightsRadical wrote:

cop this wrote:I doubt that those who feel that children are essentially more beautiful than adults will change such a view but so what, as long as their behaviour changes.

But this is precisely the change that re-orientation seeks to bring about. I'm surprised to see you putting forward this "hopeless" message in a post intended to claim that changing your attractions is possible.

322 isn't asking about changing his behaviors. He's asking about changing his attractions.

Arrrrrrrrrrrrrrrgh! (in honour of talk-like-a-pirate day)

The post, as indicated at the top, was about change in general, and not specifically aimed at 322.

Yea be under a misapprehension tha, Jim me lad! For many, booty will not be the only aspect of their attraction, and may be entirely absent, as I'm sure many here will vouch. I don't know how many would place a child's booty at the top of their list of attributes as part of their attraction - I was merely citing an example that could apply to many, and which might apply to many non-paedophiles anyway. Having such a view, in my opinion should not necessarily interfere with any other changes brought about. That was all. Arrrrrrrgh!

If I knew what definitely would work in changing someone's orientation or even behaviour I would consider being a therapist, and possibly making a fortune in the process. Arrrrrrrrrrrrrrrgh! And I'd bury it on some deserted Island, as being a pirate, one is obliged to do so!

cop this wrote:there is an ethical consideration for anyone with a paedophilic attraction having a relationship with an adult that may simply fail, and causing damage to that person

I wouldn't get too hung up on this. The vast majority of relationships fail. Even if one is in a good, long-term relationship, all one's previous relationships have failed. People get hurt, but that's the price of the pleasure that can be obtained when things go well. Anyone entering into relationships accepts the potential emotional cost.

That said, this only applies where you reasonably believe there's a chance a relationship won't fail.

YouthRightsRadical wrote:Re-orientation efforts don't work. I'm sorry.

I'm nonexclusive, and I keep a porn program with adult models on my desktop at all times, and run it whenever I'm waiting through commercials on a video. It hasn't had any meaningful impact on the fact that only a handful of adults really do anything for me sexually, and it hasn't made me any less interested in young children.

Ok, this cracked me up.

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I'm a non-exclusive pedophile (who was convinced of being exclusive in the past for like 2 months just because I didn't find any adult woman attractive at the time).
Re-orientation doesn't work.
If you find children more sexually attractive than adults then I'm sorry, there's not much you can do.

I used to be more attracted to pubescent children but now I can say I'm equally sexually attracted to both pubescent children and adults, and to a lesser extent attracted to prepubescent girls.

I'm only romantically attracted to adults.

It wasn't re-orientation though, it was just excluseness / non-exclusiveness confusion. Just that.

So nope, I don't think re-orientation is possible. You can't decide not to be attracted to children or less attracted to them just like a homosexual can't become heterosexual and vice versa, sorry.

lostinlife wrote:Today I went to see a psychologist who specializes in paraphilias and has dealt with many pedophiles in the past. I would encourage anyone who has any kind of attraction to adults to take advantage of it and have sex. He has told me that I need to go out and be sexually active in order for my sexual attractions to grow with me. Basically if I stay sexually active, he said I will be much more likely to be attracted to 40 year old men when I'm 40 rather than being stuck on just children and young adults. So I can see where Anigav is coming from. It makes sense

Unfortunately, this isn't going to happen for me. Aside from being a pedophile (even non-exclusive) I have a micro-penis, so no one would ever willingly have sex with me. I'll just have to stick to masturbating and fantasies.