Pedophiles: Any of you consider having a family anyways?

One of the most depressing things about being a pedophile is the fact that we can't really fall in love with another adult and start our own family. We also can't necessarily trust ourselves to have children because of our attractions. You could imagine the nightmare that would become if one started having feelings/attractions to their own kid.

But have any of you considered becoming a partner with another pedophile that is attracted to the same gender of children as you and adopting children of the opposite gender that you both are attracted to? For example I am attracted to young boys but not girls. What if I found another pedophile that is also attracted to boys but not girls and adopted girls with him. Or adopting a boy that is just not in any way attractive to you. I know this will sound harsh/mean but there are some kids with diseases usually in third-world countries that cause facial deformities that I don't think I could become attracted to. I mean its not like we're attracted to every kid we see just like normal adults aren't attracted to every other adult they see.

I know it seems like a crazy idea, but a lot of crazy ideas are going through my head right now. I've been looking for every way to get around the barriers pedophilia puts up in the way of living a normal life.

So, any thoughts?

Honestly, having a family and kids is the only thing I really want for my future. I believe a lot of pedophiles with good self control can be perfectly capable of having children. The challenging part is finding a partner.
The idea of finding another pedophile to adopt with sounds like a very difficult task, but not impossible. It could also be a bit risky because you don't really know how strong your partners self control is. Even if you were to adopt a child they say they aren't attracted to, it's still a risk. You may know your own boundries, but there's no way to truely know theirs. And of course, you have to be completely confident in your own self control. Other than that, I can't implicitly think of anything wrong with your plan.

I'm lucky enough to be mildly (very mildly) attracted to women my own age. But I can't seem to "fall in love" with them in the same way I do with children. Hopefully someone will come along.

We all have aspirations to live a normal life. Pedophiles just have to work a little harder to get it.

Even if you adopt a child that you find attractive that doesn't mean that you must/will act on your attraction. I was a foster parent and I found ALL of my foster children attractive, many EXTREMELY attractive, but I didn't act on that attraction. It was difficult at times and I obsessed over some of them, but plenty of parents obsess over their children. Just don't do anything that would hurt the child. If you truly love them, don't hurt them.

lostinlife wrote:One of the most depressing things about being a pedophile is the fact that we can't really fall in love with another adult and start our own family. We also can't necessarily trust ourselves to have children because of our attractions. You could imagine the nightmare that would become if one started having feelings/attractions to their own kid.

Not every pedophile is exclusive. Why are you talking like every pedophile is exclusive and can't fall in love with another adult?
Also, not everyone is able to be attracted to family members. Why should pedophiles be different from other adults regarding this specific matter?

Maybe, but not for a very long time.

I am not trying to imply that all pedophiles are exclusive. But I guess I am speaking of exclusive pedophiles. I am attracted to kids and have a very mild attraction to adults. The older they look, the less attracted I am to them. I really hope that I can fall in love with an adult, but I just don't seem to have much of an emotional connection with people my own age while I feel like I could connect with every kid on the planet. I originally thought I was non-exclusive, but I am getting the feeling that I am more exclusive than I thought. I hope that meeting other gay people will prove me wrong.