Coprophilia?

93 wrote:The condition is classified in the DSM-IV as a paraphilia not otherwise specified. Let's just call it a paraphilia.

The DSM-IV is not absolute truth - something that doesn't even exist. Anyway....

93 wrote:Sexual orientation is not what paraphilia or fetish you might have. So to warp a definition like that kind of ruins the credibility of what you are saying.

I strongly disagree. I'm sexually oriented to like corpses, children, blood and pain. So, this is my sexual orientation. My sexual orientation is also heterosexual. The two are linked. I like dead girls, female children and usually, blood on females, but I also like human blood in general. So one thing can be related to the other. But that's just an example. Some people probably don't have a specific gender-oriented preference. Some people might like urine, feces, blood or vomit without the need to be coming from a person of a specific gender. I don't want to talk too much about it though, cause I don't know much about those topics and I can only speak for myself.

93. wrote:I was just asking some honest questions because I am curious about how someone becomes a coprophile or has sexual arousal from it, not whether it is a fetish or paraphilia. And from the answers I got, this definately isn't the place to ask.

Nobody knows exactly why and how someone "becomes" a coprophile...also, are you sure someone becomes a coprophile? What if people are simply born with that preference and only discovered that later in life?

The original poster asked:

• First, how does someone become a coprophile, and what makes them attracted to this in the first place? While I think it is kind of gross (I am not judging coprophiles), I am deeply curious as to how someone develops this kind of perversion.

Well, here's the recipe, I think:

1. Take two nominally Christian parents who are simply unable to talk about sex or bathroom topics with any degree of comfort.

2. Add a a child, a boy, who has normal sexual desires but is told that sex is a beautiful thing, but only for married people; otherwise, it's not beautiful at all, and is in fact sinful.

3. Add a bully to the equation, a bully who threatens the boy, then poops his pants and drops a big turd on the lawn in front of the boy's house. (About the same time, two older boys coerce the younger boy into peeing into a bottle behind an old shed. There's no abuse as such, but the younger boy comes to see the simple and necessary act of peeing as a pleasurable game of sorts. Several years later, his grandmother mentions that ladies in olden times used to raise the voluminous skirts and pee because it was too much trouble to undress to sit on a toilet. The boy, not understanding that panties hadn't been invented, is intrigued by the idea of wetting himself.

4. Add the boy's friends, who brag mostly about how much they can poop and how much they can pee. The boy admires his friends greatly, and wants to emulate them.

5. Add some bad parenting, characterized by more or less constant high-minded criticism from his father and an apparent belief by the mother that the boy can do no wrong. Neither parent gives him any guidance in anything — sex, or education, or dress, or career. The boy grows up believing that he is supposed to be good, but isn't, because he has learned to masturbate and one day discovered that a load of poop in his pants, preceded by wetting himself, feels really good, and leads to more masturbation.

6. Within a few years, a young man faces the world, completely unsure of himself, with low self-esteem and many sexual frustrations. He's a virgin, and scared of having a sexual relationship. Coprophilia (and urophilia), however, feel great and allow him to relax somewhat, even though he suffers huge guilt and shame as a result. But he can't stop, and never does stop. (Note: Combat-related PTSD didn't help a bit!)

• Second, how popular / common is this fetish? Is it rare? Maybe I have met a coprophile myself and didn't know!

No one knows. If you've met me, and you might have, I certainly wouldn't tell you about it. After all, who's going to admit to such "weird" habits to anyone (except in a forum such as this)? No one else is harmed, but revealing such behaviour is literally dangerous. A psychologist told me that fetishes and paraphilias need to be considered as common or uncommon, although no one can really say which ones are common or uncommon. They should never be considered good or bad. People coping with them are just people who are dealing with life as well as possible under their particular circumstances. And they're not necessarily very happy people (although they may be successful, as I am, in conventional ways).

Other

I was born with my paraphilia. I would assume it is the same.

I would not consider myself an actual coprophile but in the last few months I've become passively more curious about the experience. Excrement itself general grosses me out on both a physical and conceptual level but perhaps because of this it's become somewhat enticing, like a self imposed stigma.

My present fantasy (which I haven't really nurtured, it's more like an involuntary memory that flashes upon me once in a while) is of a clean, cute girl in her late teens/ early twenties. (Like France Gall in the music video for "Homme tout Petite").

I like the juxtaposition of something so clean, pretty and delicate against something so palpably gross, crude and unladylike.

I also like the humiliation as it brings the beautiful creature down to my level and enhances the intimacy.

Perhaps modernity appropriated general sexuality to the degree that sexual contact and nudity no longer convey a sense of intimacy to people are moving onto an even more supposedly private act.

I don't want the girl to suffer. In fact I want the act to bring us closer in both a physical and spiritual sense.

Coincidentally, I think, I used to frequently get an erection from defecation. I still find it rather pleasurable but I'm not sure if this counts as sexual.

Coprophile here. I would not worry to much about calling it perversion, many people who enjoy this paraphilia will call themselves a pervert anyway. At least the people I know happily call themselves it.

I clearly remember the turning point for me when I became interested in this but before I say how I want to say that a year or two before this happened the viral clip 2 Girls 1 Cup was floating about and like many I watched it but I felt sick when I watched it. I only ever watched it once because of how it made me feel.

Now having said that a year or two after I was watching porn online on a site where coprophile videos where highly active. While browsing I saw a particular clip which seemed like something I would enjoy. At the start of it, it was very anal/urine heavy which I enjoyed but as the video went on it started to involved coprophile more and more.

I have never been one to judge anyone/thing so for some reason I just decided to carry on watching and see what happens. The video was light* compared to some of the things out there. I cannot pinpoint to why I chose to carry on watching it.

Its hard to put into words why I take pleasure from this but I think at its core its the humiliation, being in a position of submissiveness (for me anyway), even the thought of doing something so filthy gives me pleasure.

Believe it or not it is highly common, more common that what you may think. It is because it is seen by society and vile, nasty and disgusting it is not something that is discussed or spoken about easily which in itself makes it rare at the same time.

Not sure how much of this helps or answers your questions but if you have any more questions please Pm, I will be glad to try and answer them for you.

Tulula.

My mistake:

It was the video for "Dann schon eher der pianoplayer"

For some reason, France Gall in that video makes me think of the sights and sounds of defecation.