attracted to 14 to 16yr old girls...?...why?

I am a 30 white male have a long term gf...and have no issues with finding women....i obviously love women everything bout them love how sexy they can be in every way.....well i live in a big city so lot of girls everywhere andseems the generations of girls are getting sexier....i always seem to be looking or fantasizing bout younger girls...some of them are sexier than grown women these days....my fantasy of hooking up with a 14 to 16 yr old girl has me masterbating to pics to them....there is a 15 yr old spanish girl who lives nextdoor from me and shes very flirty and i always wearing skimmpy provocative clothing...i obviously flirt back but harmless flurting ive never acted upon my urges but feel one day i will...my next door neighbor has asked for m number so. Gave it not thinking what i was doing was wrong but temptation won me over...ive texted back and forth with her got to the pount i became more open and have talked sexually with her and shes all for it...we have traded pics showing ourselves and i just never felt more horny and sexually aroused ever in my life .....i want to hook up with her but. Know its wrong anyonelse have thi issue

Being attracted to girls this age is entirely normal. Most of them are well into puberty. It is biologically valid to be attracted to girls this age, and heterosexual men who are not attracted to girls this age are an extremely small minority. The age of consent should not be mistaken for an age of acceptability for attraction.

However, the age of consent should be taken as a threshold for permissibility of sexual activity. Furthermore, depending on your jurisdiction, the trading of sexually explicit pictures may also be illegal, and there may be a separation age for that. For example, in the UK, a girl of 16 years 0 days is deemed old enough to allow you to explore her body and perform any conceivable sexual act with her (as long as she consents), but if you are caught with nude photos of a girl aged 17 years 364 days then you'll have committed an offence. Personally, I find that a bit odd. Still, in America you can star in porn films 3 years before you can drink alcohol!

Just to make my advice unequivocal: don't worry about your attraction - it's utterly normal - but play by the rules.

Yeah, biology is what it is. The law is as well. My honest opinion, as someone that helped put a guy in jail for exactly what you're thinking of doing, is that the laws in my region were created to give people some tools to shut down, discourage, and inhibit people that were taking advantage of or hurting people. They are worded so broadly as to basically be used to bludgeon anyone even vaguely guilty of taking advantage of or abusing someone. Because they are crafted that way, they can also be misused. And as far as law enforcement goes, they don't care one way or another if they "actually" stopped something bad, they just need someone to complain about something and enough evidence for a conviction.

For example, a guy on my street was 22 and apparently beat his 16 year old pregnant girlfriend. I think it's easy to see why this got him both assault charges and statutory rape charges, but if he hadn't assaulted her nobody was actively trying to press charges against him for the statutory crime.

In your own situation, I understand your perspective, but I just wouldn't get involved with this younger girl. Just the picture sharing, if you are in the US, is a felony. Actually, you've alluded to like three different felonies already. You're playing a dangerous game. That's the law, for whatever it's worth.

Does this still happen all the time? Yes. Is every relationship that is legally prohibited biologically or morally wrong? No. We only need think of homosexual relationships that are legally prohibited in various parts of the world.

And on your own mind should be whether or not any of this is morally wrong, in addition to legally wrong. If you're taking advantage of this girl who may not know what she's getting into, you need to consider how you feel about that. This should apply to any relationship, but I'm just reiterating it.

Exactly, don't use the law as a moral compass. Stick to the law, but be guided first and foremost by what you know to be right and wrong, acceptable and unacceptable. I think you're using the attraction issue as a proxy for the real issue, i.e. what you're doing, as if by obtaining the 'seal of approval' for the attraction the actions will be justified and you'll be exonerated. The long arm of the law won't see it like that.

Also, you say you have a long term girlfriend. Just trading images with this girl creates further issues in whether or not you respect this girlfriend. Both of these problems are about respect for other people.

I completely understand lawfully it s illegal that. Do know....do i also find it morally wrong that i feel and think this way ...yes absolutely. ....the situayion isnt like everyone thinks....one thing is i feel terrible that my gf has no clue bout my thoughts and it eats me alive lol...and feel bad that im hiding such a forbbiden urge....and for the 15 yr old girl....i like her its not just a sexual attraction even know thats how it started..but shes more developed physically than my gf and sometimes feel shes more mature than her lol...its not just me being blind or wanting to see or think that just cause its my fantasy...

This girl is very well aware of what she is doing shes nd consented too... Everything we have shared and spoke bout has been mutual otherwise i prob would not have even texted or spoke about things as much as i have!....although we havent done anything more than exchanged words im afraid it will go further only caise shes not a angel shes very flirty and provocative ....its hard to even be atound her cause temptation is there ....she has asked to kiss her one day asking me threw text but havent answered her cause dont want it on text so im very well aware this is wrong

But shes just to damn sexy ....its. mutual feeling and i never looked at a young girl like this but her body is like a young grown woman and i habe bad thoughts lol....she talks t me like a woman ....not sure if i could say no....she also brings up she likes that im much older and thats a turn on too her vic versa told her that her age is a huge turn on ...ive had phone sex and traded pics with her and my urgez are only becoming worse and thoughts are s strong

I'm very confused. It sounds like you're already in a sexual relationship with this girl.

Your actions thus far already put you in violation of the law. Actually, you'd be in safer legal territory if you'd just ###$ her without all the phone sex and picture trading.

Sounds to me like you're already cheating on your girlfriend. I'd say you have a moral duty to break up with the girl you're in a relationship with before pursuing another. That is, unless you've explicitly spelled out terms with your girlfriend about nonexclusivity.

I dont think people see my point ...i love my gf this isnt something i planned nor wanted to do at first it gradually came to this extent....how does one man get over this urge or how can i stop this cycle before it gets tok more involved...at this point i dont have emotional feelings just a sexual attachment... how do i stop the thoughts and the messin around before i do catch feelings for a 15 yr old and want too much ...i would like figure this out on my own before i try to explain this to a proffessional

How do you not have these feelings? Not possible. You can maybe kill your libido entirely with harsh drugs, but that's not really a good option in my view.

You can have feelings like this and NOT engage in phonesex with underage girls and NOT swap pornographic photos of one another. That part is something plenty of us here manage every day without any real difficulty.

If you're looking for specific steps for pulling back from the girl you're currently involved with, I recommend simply cutting off contact entirely, since neither one of you seems capable of having a mature conversation where you note that this isn't healthy and you agree to stop flirting and engaging sexually with one another.

Since you are in the US:

http://www.missingkids.com/LegalResourc ... FederalLaw

Maybe you can scare yourself out of it. Honestly, when I read those laws it scared me and I hadn't (actually) done anything illegal. I was scared when I gave a teenage friend a collection of comic books that contained some mild nudity, that could be construed as providing pornography to a minor.

Or maybe you can just be an adult and do what's right for you and your girlfriend you love rather than what other parts of you want.