Dating a pedophile

Hey all,

Just out of curiosity, I wondered what your thoughts are about dating someone who was also a pedophile. For as long as I can remember I have fantasized about being with woman who is also a pedophile, not necessarily for sexual reasons, but to have someone who understands and who I could share my thoughts with, you know? I know dating another pedophile will probably never ever happen, but let's say if you were to meet someone who you later found out was a pedophile, do you think a relationship could work? Or do you think it could cause problems? I've spoke to a couple of people about this already, but I'm curious to get more views on this.

By the way, if there are any female pedophiles here and you'd like to build a friendship, please pm me any time.

As much fun as it sounds, I think there's a terrible increased risk of acting upon your urges. At best this would be inappropriate, at worst it would be severely damaging to a young persons mental health. I don't recommend dating a paedophile if you yourself are one. You'll find yourselves finding ways to justify having sex with youngsters because there will be an increased normalisation of paedophilia.
That being said, I'd like to go out with a guy who's into younger dudes too. I just don't think it'd be a good idea is all.

I've dated a couple of pedophiles. I don't know HOW they find me...but they do and it can be quite swell.

It feels super liberating IF they are level headed and wouldn't act on their urges or encourage you to do it. You can talk about it and mutually fantasize. Even incorporate it into your "dirty talk" if you feel like you can handle it.

The downside is, having children is a REALLY bad idea. That's like two alcoholics opening a bar. I feel like it would turn into an "I will if you will" scenario (maybe it's because that's how all my worst decisions start).

xoPinkerbelleox wrote:It feels super liberating IF they are level headed and wouldn't act on their urges or encourage you to do it. You can talk about it and mutually fantasize. Even incorporate it into your "dirty talk" if you feel like you can handle it.

That's exactly how I'd envision a relationship to be. I consider myself to be very level headed and I would never act out on my fantasies. Having someone similar who you can mutually fantasize with sounds exhilarating to me. It would be so much fun, providing we both knew where the boundaries were.

MrT87 wrote:

xoPinkerbelleox wrote:It feels super liberating IF they are level headed and wouldn't act on their urges or encourage you to do it. You can talk about it and mutually fantasize. Even incorporate it into your "dirty talk" if you feel like you can handle it.

That's exactly how I'd envision a relationship to be. I consider myself to be very level headed and I would never act out on my fantasies. Having someone similar who you can mutually fantasize with sounds exhilarating to me. It would be so much fun, providing we both knew where the boundaries were.

Yeah boundaries are important. It's something that really brings you together. I mean, it's just like dating a guy with whom I share ANY fetish, except there are no parties or seminars and luncheons for pedophiles the way there are for other things.

For me, I would like it for a different reason. I have a part of my personality that is 6 or 7 so I feel like she could be my mother or an adult that could "love" me. For her, she could talk about and fantasize about her fantasys with me, and be open, without ever having to fear about having someone that would want her to indulge in it. Of course, you always have the issue on both sides (for both me or a pedo) of how do you admit to something so intimate and that could get you judged that most of society wouldn't understand?

I have told people before and it did not go well. Even therapists that had no clue on how to deal with it...

It would be liberating to be able to open up completely about fantasies and not be judged for it or automatically assumed that you would act on it.