shocking, friend seems to accept pedophilia

It happened an evening while a friend and I talked about an episode that happened to me where another friend of me, after I was joking about her liking old guys, replied to me: "If I like old men, you're a pedophile".
This other friend I was talking to seemed to agree with me. "How did she dare say something like that to me?", I said, feeling like I was damn lying and feeling like part of a movie where I was being the actor. And she agreed with me. "Indeed, you're right! It's none of her business! Does it really matter if you like 12,11,10 year old girls?", she said, while my heart skipped a beat as she kept repeating the ages....
I was shocked. Correct me if I'm wrong, but by saying that she showed how she has no problem with someone liking 12,11,10 year old girls.
I kept talking naturally, as if the thing didn't shock me...it's part of being an actor, every pedophile in the closet, every non-offending pedophile who hides learns how to be a perfect actor...

No, I won't admit being a pedophile to her, even though I was close to deliver that message.
It was nice of her taking my defenses, after all, she confessed to me private things that would be considered psychopathic by most of people, and I listened to her and supported her, maybe because, after all, I'm similar to her.

Hope! There's still hope that a non-pedophile who doesn't want to kill all pedophiles exist!

It's always great to discover that there are people who don't hate paraphiliacs...I think there are actually a lot of sensible people out there who realize that our feelings don't make us harmful. Maybe I'm optimistic because my friendships are mostly limited to people who accept me or are at least openminded to other kinds of sexuality. friendships are great, i know for me there were definitely times i wanted to give up but held on to life because of my friends' support for me.

I think any reasonable person could accept that someone's sexual attraction isn't what makes them who they are. Most people have had some thought patters they find embarrassing to tell others even if they aren't pedophiles or anything similar. The truth is that it isn't anyone else's business who or what you find sexually attractive, and I would only encourage someone to tell someone about their pedophilia if they feel ashamed about it.

Nowadays people are more open-minded about homosexuality, for example, but as pedophilia is a very delicate matter as it involves children and children are innocent and weak individuals, then that is why pedophilia is seen as a monster in our society.
But if one does not act on their impulses then there is no harm. It is like "look but dont touch".
She's been knowing me for a long time and she knows I have done no harm to children in my life and this is the truth.

yeah, since she knows you well already she has a more well-rounded view of you.
Mostly, I think pedophiles are viewed as monsters because people have the tendency to focus on the person's sexuality, not on the real person and their feelings...they forget that they're real people too who have the ability to make our own choices just like any other responsible adult. Just like anyone with the more "normal" desires can choose whether to act on them or not.

One of my former best friends is a pedophile. It didn't phase me one bit.

What I did find odd was how the only part of a chicken he'll eat is the skin. Now that's disturbing. On the bright side, I'd get all the meat.

In the news and late night adult comedy when they make pedophile jokes, they are mostly portraying characters such as the old man in Family Guy, or making references to looking for kids in parks, coaches and teacher louring kids for sex, Catholic priests, etc. I doubt there has ever been a reference to a non-offending pedophile as they wouldn't be funny to make fun of. It doesn't take much more than saying, a heterosexual man isn't a rapist anymore than a pedophile is a child molester. They might be driven up the wall at the idea of someone defending a pedophile at first, but usually that may just be because they are uncomfortable at the fact that they actually may agree with that statement. Others will usually respond with something like, "Well, they should just get castrated then," or, "Well, they just need to get help before they get the urge to rape a little boy," or something of that sort. However, people can be reasoned with, and are capable of knowing a pedophile isn't always a child molester, but they aren't exposed to the view because it seems anyone publicly defending a pedophile is a monster.

I wonder what it would take maybe to get a network television special of a psychologist who deals with sexual disorders to clear up some rumors and false beliefs about pedophiles. I'm not a pedophile, but it disgusts me that anyone can be so stupid as to just automatically judge someone by their sex fantasies.

Yes to all of that ^