Romantic atractions towards children?

I’ve always found kinda weird we almost never hear about romantic attraction, or should I say (“romantic pedophilia”?) Because we usually only think about “sexual orientation” and “romantic orientation” as one thing only. And I think that is deep profound question:

A man who romantically loves a children, is a pedophile?

And, what would be “romantically loving someone”?

What’s the difference between a romantic love and the parental love that parents feel to their children?

Anyway, just some thoughts of mine.

I think maybe you're confused at the difference between a crush and a squish.

A squish is just usually a deep love for someone that isn't sexual or romantic. However, the definition of romance is very non-descriptive when comparing the difference between different types of love. A romance really only means a type of attraction associated with love. If that was the true meaning of it when people say it, it could simply just be a deep love for one's children.

I think when people say romance as how it differs from sex, they are talking about passionate kissing, slow dancing, deep displays of affection, etc.

It is hard to really consider someone a pedophile if they don't have an interest in sexual contact with children. I suppose you could classify some people as possibly "pedo-romantic," if they have romance but not sex desires, but it is hard to say what kind of non-sexual feelings someone could have about children that I would really consider romance.

I fall in love with little boys very easily, but more as the idea of being their friend and care giver. The only type of hugging and kissing I ever imagined myself in with little boys is mostly just a quick kiss on the cheek or the lips, but never was interested in making out or french kissing with them. However, people kiss their own children in non-romantic ways all the time. I think what happens to me is I easily bond with and get my heart broken over little boys after I establish a good friendship with them, such as working for a summer camp when I spend all hours of the day with the boys in my cabin and bond, then after it is over I'm crying for days because of how attached I got to them. I won't doubt that I am unusually attached to little boys to an emotionally unhealthy level, but it isn't pedophilia.

So I don't know if you are referring to yourself or others, but it would depend on what you mean by romantic. In the 1950s people thought of romantic as just going to the malt shop together and holding hands.

I'm glad you asked this.

Sexual orientation has both a sexual and romantic component to it. In practice though, many people experience one much more so than the other.

Sexual arousal seems to be favored over romantic love when defining one's sexuality. However romantic feelings and fantasies are much more meaningful for me than lust, and there are other pedophiles who feel that way. I feel sexual lust for adult men, but it doesn't even come close depth-wise to how I feel about girls romantically. Romantic love is just more meaningful than lust, but I understand that not everyone experiences it that strongly or obsessively. That's why I like to go by the term 'girl lover.'

So what is romantic love? Well it describes the feeling of being in love. It describes a desire to be close to someone you admire in ways that would be excessively intimate or sensual for a friendship or parent-child relationship.

If someone is aroused by someone, their goal is to achieve orgasm and sexual release with that person.

If I am romantically attracted to someone I may want: to be kissed in special ways, i.e on the neck or other more sensitive and erogenous zones, nibbling of my lips or ear lobes, longer more passionate kissing, dancing, holding hands, light touching, holding each other in bed without genital contact, gifts of flowers or other meaningful items, taking a bath together in candlelight, longingly staring into each other's eyes.

sprooglestrewft wrote:I'm glad you asked this.

Sexual orientation has both a sexual and romantic component to it. In practice though, many people experience one much more so than the other.

Sexual arousal seems to be favored over romantic love when defining one's sexuality. However romantic feelings and fantasies are much more meaningful for me than lust, and there are other pedophiles who feel that way. I feel sexual lust for adult men, but it doesn't even come close depth-wise to how I feel about girls romantically. Romantic love is just more meaningful than lust, but I understand that not everyone experiences it that strongly or obsessively. That's why I like to go by the term 'girl lover.'

So what is romantic love? Well it describes the feeling of being in love. It describes a desire to be close to someone you admire in ways that would be excessively intimate or sensual for a friendship or parent-child relationship.

If someone is aroused by someone, their goal is to achieve orgasm and sexual release with that person.

If I am romantically attracted to someone I may want: to be kissed in special ways, i.e on the neck or other more sensitive and erogenous zones, nibbling of my lips or ear lobes, longer more passionate kissing, dancing, holding hands, light touching, holding each other in bed without genital contact, gifts of flowers or other meaningful items, taking a bath together in candlelight, longingly staring into each other's eyes.

Am I the only one who would want to kiss someone I am not romantically attracted to for a very long time and in a kinda passionate way yet harsh way?

To answer the question, yes a pedophile can and very often does feel romantical attraction to children, surely in a slightly different way than "the adult way", but it's perfectly possible.
To me it happens, I love a 12 year-old girl and I don't see her in a sexual way, but only in a romantical way and it's not because I am not physically attracted to her, it's just because I love her.
Then there are other girls that only arouse me, and another one that is somehow in between the two spheres....

But yeah it does happen.

WHen you feel aroused to someone you tend to think of that person in a sexual way, when you feel romantic attraction you imagine living romantic moments with that person, going to places together, sharing your life with that person, etc.