what does this mean?

hi

whenever i see a women that looks beautiful, i get a scared kind of feeling, i get the butterflies in the stomach feeling, and get way too scared to get within a few metres of them
and i know i am somewhat attracted to them,
and when i see a little girl, i feel so relaxed, i feel just great and positive

can you tell me what this means?
will i have to keep my distance from all females for my life?
how can i get over this fear?,
i would like a family some day

thanks

Frankie123 wrote:hi

whenever i see a women that looks beautiful, i get a scared kind of feeling, i get the butterflies in the stomach feeling, and get way too scared to get within a few metres of them
and i know i am somewhat attracted to them,
and when i see a little girl, i feel so relaxed, i feel just great and positive

can you tell me what this means?
will i have to keep my distance from all females for my life?
how can i get over this fear?,
i would like a family some day

thanks

The little girl is less likely to negatively judge aspects of your life.

I work with kids and I feel much less social pressure around little kids than I do adults. I get nervous when going to adult social activities because I have some deficiencies in my social and emotional development, but when I'm around kids, I'm relaxed and enjoy myself.

Unless you're being coy, my 2nd thought (my 1st was being coy and hinting at other things) is since an adult woman is registering as attractive you're feeling nervous or anxious because you're considering approaching her. Whereas a child isn't being seen as a potential romantic partner so they're 'safe.' Like gay men, priests, and other men being who women will flock to, while they stay away from straight ones.

JackM678 wrote:I work with kids and I feel much less social pressure around little kids than I do adults. I get nervous when going to adult social activities because I have some deficiencies in my social and emotional development, but when I'm around kids, I'm relaxed and enjoy myself.

Same here.
We have very introverted personalities, that is the best explanation.

hesdeltancaptain
- i don't find these women attractive myself, im just saying they are attractive so you can picture them to understand better
and i do see some girls as potential romantic partners, but im smart enough to know that if i even touch a girl, my life will be over, and her life will be ruined, so i keep my distance from little girls as much as i can

thank you everyone,
this was very helpful

Frankie123 wrote:hesdeltancaptain
- i don't find these women attractive myself, im just saying they are attractive so you can picture them to understand better
and i do see some girls as potential romantic partners, but im smart enough to know that if i even touch a girl, my life will be over, and her life will be ruined, so i keep my distance from little girls as much as i can

thank you everyone,
this was very helpful

Those adult women are still capable of negatively judging you in ways that wouldn't exist to a child. A child doesn't care how much money you make or how confident you are, this is the reason that even most adult men who are not pedophiles would be more comfortable around little girls than adult women.

So do you feel that inside you want a sexual relationship with a little girl, or are you just more comfortable around them?

I actually don't feel any sexual need for little boys, just emotional needs for friendship and mentoring. However, the men I like sexually are often much younger than myself. I obviously know better than to sexually touch anyone under 18 or adults without consent. I still refer to teens as men though because biologically they are developing sexually and have sexual desires, but I just can't legally have a sexual relationship with them, but I'm pretty much aromantic anyway.

So do you think your interest in little girls is a romantic crush or just a yearning for affection?

All the fantasies I have had regarding little boys has mostly been about platonic and companionship type love. Mostly just things such as hugging them when they are crying, doing games and activities together, taking care of them, helping them with homework, etc. I never had a fantasy of having sex with one though. What I had to do is come to accept that children I work with aren't going to have the same feelings for me as I do for them, but it is okay for me to feel my feelings but not allow them to behave inappropriately.

I suggest if you have emotional fantasies involving little girls, it is possible you just suffer from a low self-esteem, social anxiety, and are a bit delayed with your emotional maturity development. There is no shame in being emotionally attached to little girls, but maybe try to identify what is triggering some of those feelings and work on the negative triggers such as low self esteem and embracing the positive triggers such as having a good caring heart and wanting to help kids, which is what I did.

hi

i honestly want a sexual relationship with a girl, and i am also a lot more comfortable around them

So do you think your interest in little girls is a romantic crush or just a yearning for affection?

i think my interest in little girls is more of a romantic crush, i just see them as better life partners

i do suffer from social anxiety, but not low self esteem, im very confident, but if im around new people, i find it hard to speak to them,

do you believe in the frontal lobe theory?
i remember falling down a staircase and i have a dent in my skull in the front,
do you think that caused my paedophilia?

thanks

Frankie123 wrote:hi

i honestly want a sexual relationship with a girl, and i am also a lot more comfortable around them

So do you think your interest in little girls is a romantic crush or just a yearning for affection?

i think my interest in little girls is more of a romantic crush, i just see them as better life partners

i do suffer from social anxiety, but not low self esteem, im very confident, but if im around new people, i find it hard to speak to them,

do you believe in the frontal lobe theory?
i remember falling down a staircase and i have a dent in my skull in the front,
do you think that caused my paedophilia?

thanks

What makes you think that little girls are better life partners than adult women?