Did your parents play a role in your paraphilia?

KevinG31 wrote: You could be associating children with that time in your life when you were together with that girl, to do so would be no different than how people enjoy the era of music from an earlier time in their life when they were more happy.

Maybe. I still wonder how having fond memories of appropriate interactions with children would lead to these very strong romantic and sexual desires about children.

EDIT: Also, assuming you are correct, I don't see how this is much different from conditioning myself into a different sexuality. In either case, I wasn't a pedophile before, and I was a pedophile after. Something most people will refuse to believe.

SpecialCuteHugs wrote:

KevinG31 wrote: You could be associating children with that time in your life when you were together with that girl, to do so would be no different than how people enjoy the era of music from an earlier time in their life when they were more happy.

Maybe. I still wonder how having fond memories of appropriate interactions with children would lead to these very strong romantic and sexual desires about children.

EDIT: Also, assuming you are correct, I don't see how this is much different from conditioning myself into a different sexuality. In either case, I wasn't a pedophile before, and I was a pedophile after. Something most people will refuse to believe.

I think people just like the black and white clarity of believing that sexuality is fixed and can't be altered. Ten years ago I started out with a female domination fetish and began reading stories about powerful women forcing men to wear women's clothes and to work as maids. The stories had the plot twist of the male maid then being forced to have sex with other men. I was completely surprised at how much I was aroused over this as I had always believed I was one hundred percent straight. After reading stories like that over a period of years I've reached the point where now I've conditioned myself so that I'm almost completely gay. Even the self talk in my head tells me how much I love and crave good looking men.

I keep remembering things that happened to me in the past that are related to my humiliation paraphilia. I recall a big falling out that took place between my mother and my aunt in the fight for their dying mother's lavish inheritance. I ended up caught in the middle of this with my aunt telling my mother that I was a weak sissy because I didn't play any sports like my aunt's sons did. You know how when people insult you over something and it hurts because they are right? Well that's how my aunt's comments made me feel, I was embarrassed because what she said was true, I was and still am a sissy. My aunt humiliating me like that led me directly onto the path towards an interest in female domination stories.

Would say at least generally, that our parents or those acting as such (even if not blood related) played a role in whatever we came to identify with be it sexually or otherwise. We are the product of those who raise us. In some instances the influence is higher than in others depending on the issue, and which ever parent was the dominant influence.

In my case, my Mom divorced Dad when I was 10 and was a very strong-willed working parent. Catching me and my cousin fooling around often she made mention once that starting out sex so young would have me experimenting with gay sex because girls will have bored me. Such a strange thing to say it burned its way into my long-term memory. And sure enough, in my early 20s I did try sex with guys. Whether as a direct result of Mom's prophetic warning or other things I can't say. But I would say her attitude about sex influenced my own. She's very sex-positive at least with heterosexuality and I grew up with access to her various sex manuals ("Joy of Sex" et al.) They were my first sex education as well as masturbation material (this was well before the internet took off.)

We have a close open relationship to this day and while my openess about things sometimes results in her getting embarassed like asking if she owned a good vibrator and if not would she like one for her birthday, in all we have a great relationship. And I credit her with who I am.

HesDeltanCaptain wrote:Would say at least generally, that our parents or those acting as such (even if not blood related) played a role in whatever we came to identify with be it sexually or otherwise. We are the product of those who raise us. In some instances the influence is higher than in others depending on the issue, and which ever parent was the dominant influence.

In my case, my Mom divorced Dad when I was 10 and was a very strong-willed working parent. Catching me and my cousin fooling around often she made mention once that starting out sex so young would have me experimenting with gay sex because girls will have bored me. Such a strange thing to say it burned its way into my long-term memory. And sure enough, in my early 20s I did try sex with guys. Whether as a direct result of Mom's prophetic warning or other things I can't say. But I would say her attitude about sex influenced my own. She's very sex-positive at least with heterosexuality and I grew up with access to her various sex manuals ("Joy of Sex" et al.) They were my first sex education as well as masturbation material (this was well before the internet took off.)

We have a close open relationship to this day and while my openess about things sometimes results in her getting embarassed like asking if she owned a good vibrator and if not would she like one for her birthday, in all we have a great relationship. And I credit her with who I am.

Wow! I think her suggesting that you would eventually have gay sex excited you and made you more excited to do it.

My mother would say things to me about my father when he wasn't around which suggested that he was effeminate, she complained that he cried frequently at movies like a girl and therefore she wondered why he didn't wear lace panties instead of male underwear. Hearing my mother verbally feminizing my father like that made me feel even more insecure about my own masculinity and I was also frightened that it was so easy for women to cut down a man's masculinity with their harsh judgment.