Just do it.

SpecialCuteHugs wrote:

Simontheo wrote:It's terrible being exclusive and not having help. It's hard to smile, even if for no reason at all. When will things change?

What kind of help do you want? Certainly you have found people to relate to on this forum, so that must help somewhat. Do you do any research about pedophilia and related subjects? Educating yourself on this stuff can make you feel better about it. Taking a look at this website might be a good idea: http://www.virped.org/ Have you considered getting therapy? Are you involved in any social activities / groups in your community?

I assure you that nothing will change if you just sit around on internet forums, feeling bad about yourself and waiting for change to happen. You have to go out into the world and find things that you are passionate about. If you are already trying, keep trying and eventually you will succeed. Your signature says something about being "alone by choice, but not my choice." I'm not sure what that means exactly, but you must acknowledge that you don't have to be alone just because you have certain problems that you can't talk to most people about.

Hi, thanks for the sweet message. I just want it to end. I do alot of research about this. But that's an interesting site, will be checking it out. I've been through therapy for 2 years, with 2 different therapists. But I stopped, because my mom prefers to believe I'm not a pedophile and my dad had discovered he has cancer so I didn't want to be wasting my time with therapy. It is after all unfair for me to do so. It means that eventually people leave me or forgot about me. So, I shut the world down in live in Puppy Land, it's such a great place. I love it so much! People are nice and love eachother, love me! Well thank you for taking some time to respond to me. I appreciate it

Seriously mods? You removed the picture and links? Its the ugly truth. People kill themselves over this. I'm pretty sure a lot of us here have considered it. I know I have.

Siamese Fever wrote:Though, considering these APA people are reptilians, they probably wont budge even if a lot of young kids kill themselves in the coming years over this. I'm sure a lot parents would feel joyful to bury that little "blemish on their reputation". Or perhaps I'm just super cynical.

"This is the best thing i have ever seen on utube and if only all pedo`s could do this so we could be there live to see it happen and sell popcorn and programs. The only good pedo is a dead pedo and a dead pedo is the beginning of a great day ."

The above is a comment from a Youtube video called "Pedophile kills himself." No, your not being cynical. The world would be very happy to see young pedophiles blow their brains out.

Zebramouse wrote:

Siamese Fever wrote:Though, considering these APA people are reptilians, they probably wont budge even if a lot of young kids kill themselves in the coming years over this. I'm sure a lot parents would feel joyful to bury that little "blemish on their reputation". Or perhaps I'm just super cynical.

"This is the best thing i have ever seen on utube and if only all pedo`s could do this so we could be there live to see it happen and sell popcorn and programs. The only good pedo is a dead pedo and a dead pedo is the beginning of a great day ."

The above is a comment from a Youtube video called "Pedophile kills himself." No, your not being cynical. The world would be very happy to see young pedophiles blow their brains out.

Look, it is incredibly obvious that some people in the world wish to see all pedophiles die, but you don't have to listen to their crap. Stop giving them attention; they don't deserve it.

Just live a virtuous life as best you can, and the good people (ie. the people that actually MATTER in your life) will give you the respect you deserve. Focus on THOSE people. Dwelling in a pit of hopelessness and despair is something that you don't have to do. You gotta make the best of things and set a good example and help other people in your situation.

I am a pedophile myself, and while I too get angered by many of the hateful, ignorant comments I've seen about pedophilia, I don't see any reason to lose all hope in life and toy with the notion of suicide. This is ridiculous. I've been lurking these forums for weeks now, and I just don't understand why so many of you are so damn pessimistic. It just adds more negativity to an already unfair and frustrating situation.

SpecialCuteHugs wrote:Just live a virtuous life as best you can, and the good people (ie. the people that actually MATTER in your life) will give you the respect you deserve.

What a load of crap. Maybe you were raised by super supportive open minded hippy parents that love you no matter what. It doesn't matter how good a person I am. as long as I'm a pedophile I wont get respect from anyone.

SpecialCuteHugs wrote:Dwelling in a pit of hopelessness and despair is something that you don't have to do.

I'm just being realistic. I see no point in lying to myself about the way things are.

SpecialCuteHugs wrote:I am a pedophile myself, and while I too get angered by many of the hateful, ignorant comments I've seen about pedophilia, I don't see any reason to lose all hope in life and toy with the notion of suicide. This is ridiculous. I've been lurking these forums for weeks now, and I just don't understand why so many of you are so damn pessimistic. It just adds more negativity to an already unfair and frustrating situation.

I have many reasons why I would end my life. Being a pedophile is just one of them.

Good science does not bow to social pressure. Both APA statements veer into non-medical territory:

APA stands firmly behind efforts to criminally prosecute those who sexually abuse and exploit
children and adolescents.

^This refers to criminal acts, not a paraphilia or orientation.

The American Psychological Association maintains that pedophilia is a mental disorder; that sex between adults and children is always wrong; and that acting on pedophilic impulses is and should be a criminal act.

^This moves from the medical to the moral to the legal.

Both organisations are manifestly succumbing to pressure to make their 'science' fit sociocultural norms.

Zebramouse wrote:
What a load of crap. Maybe you were raised by super supportive open minded hippy parents that love you no matter what. It doesn't matter how good a person I am. as long as I'm a pedophile I wont get respect from anyone.

When you get respect you don't believe it. You view it as something that shouldn't be trusted, you view that person as if they were trying to bring you down. It is understandable, to a certain extent.

GinaSmith wrote:Good science does not bow to social pressure. Both APA statements veer into non-medical territory:

APA stands firmly behind efforts to criminally prosecute those who sexually abuse and exploit
children and adolescents.

^This refers to criminal acts, not a paraphilia or orientation.

The American Psychological Association maintains that pedophilia is a mental disorder; that sex between adults and children is always wrong; and that acting on pedophilic impulses is and should be a criminal act.

^This moves from the medical to the moral to the legal.

Both organisations are manifestly succumbing to pressure to make their 'science' fit sociocultural norms.

Isn't there any way we can change this? It they give in to pressure then what's the point of science anymore? I thought it was supposed to help people!

Within the medical sphere, things are steered by the concepts of health and disorder, vague terms. How do you define normative parameters in psychiatry, a field that is still a long way from being an exact science?

Zebramouse wrote:What a load of crap. Maybe you were raised by super supportive open minded hippy parents that love you no matter what. It doesn't matter how good a person I am. as long as I'm a pedophile I wont get respect from anyone.

There exist plenty of people who would still respect you despite your pedophilia. There exist many people who would still treat you well even if they find your pedophilia abhorrent and don't respect it. Yes, they might be few and far between, but they are out there and they are worth putting up with everyone else's crap for. Pretending that these good, understanding people don't exist is a sure-fire way to never find them and confirm your false belief.

Zebramouse wrote:I'm just being realistic. I see no point in lying to myself about the way things are.

YOU are part of the way things are. Sure, your situation sucks, maybe a lot more than most other people's, but it's only TOTALLY hopeless because YOU decided that's how it is. You don't have to. Stop being "realistic" and start figuring out how to live the best life that you can.

Zebramouse wrote:I have many reasons why I would end my life. Being a pedophile is just one of them.

Well I guess I shouldn't have expected a suicidal person to listen to reason.

SpecialCuteHugs wrote:Well I guess I shouldn't have expected a suicidal person to listen to reason.

Hey! I'm suicidal and I still listen to reason!