Underage Porn Discovery

And to add... if you are to find more evidence I would consider handing it to police. You could use some anonymous way to do that, mail for example, if you want to save your husband from the worst. It's important since it could help to save children and catch the actual molesters. And if he knows where he obtained that stuff, you should hand that info to police as well.

If he's a hardcore pedophile he will acquire new child porn again so throwing it away right now or deleting the files he currently has is nothing but a temporary fix.

I am sorry for the situation you find yourself in. That being said the most important thing you can do is protect yourself from legal ramifications and your husband has to know this. A prison sentence is a life sentence, especially for CP. the next thing is for him to be willing to see a therapist to understand his triggers and deal with his predilection. Because like it or not, despite being born with this desire, it is considered illegal and he shouldn't be willing to risk his family to engage in activities which would harm them.

Both of you seem like intelligent and capable individuals and if you are in this together, then use all the resources available to you to keep your marriage on track and to remain "prison free".

Good luck.

I've read most of this topic now, and although many of the steps you've already taken are fantastic (and I believe your handling this the correct way), what hasn't been mentioned yet is the fact that he may not necessarily have an attraction to young children, but simply have an addiction to pornography and it has evolved in a branch towards images of children. It is very possible that he is not a pedophile at all, that simply "chasing the dragon" lead him down a specific path.

In which it would have been a detrimental choice to throw him to the police, no questions asked, as some have suggested.

Of course, he may have simply developed a fetish for younger children or be a full blown pedophile (although it wouldn't make much sense for him to stop collecting, if that were to be the case).

The most logical way to handle this has been through the steps you have already taken, and I applaud you for not even considering the other route. It would be immensely damaging for a person to legally be deemed a child predator, when in fact it was something else entirely, something else far more innocent at its core, and all over an ignorant and far too quick judgement.

So what do we do now? My best suggestion would be to both read as much as you can about the topics at hand. That being Pedophilia, Sexuality, Fetishes, and Addiction. Therapy can be a fantastic tool, but unless you have a reputable therapist, it's not going to do much good if they focus on something that may not be there (if anyone can get something wrong, its a therapist). Which is why it would be best for both of you to read up on all those topics extensively, then see a therapist, and conjoin your knowledge with what they may be suggesting.

It appears that you're level headed individuals, so this action may come as a benefit to you.