where you abused?

wonder the % of people here who where abused themselfs. its my understanding that it is common for people who where abused to become pedo?

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No. I was raised with nothing but love. I couldn't imagine any adult mistreating me in that way, even though I knew adults had their misjudgments.

Not as far as I can remember then again I don't seem to remember much from my childhood really even the later years just seem a very distant memory.

Was I abused by other kids? Maybe? Verbal and physical abuse almost daily at school, I do remember another boy trying to hump (grinding his front region against my front region I should add) me at school in front of everyone whilst waiting to go into class and laughing his tits off and everyone else and being very embarrassed. Does any of that class as abuse or just kids being kids?

Do I feel I have any ill effects form those experiences, the humping thing not that I ever really thought about other than at the time and for a week or 2, the bullying an teasing yes that hurt a lot then and still does now when I think about it, but maybe that's just because I don't deal well with emotions. Maybe that Is why I am so fond of children and have lost my way in knowing how to feel that as a normal person.

What about the boys I experimented as a boy with who basically used me for a blow job when they felt like one (numerous times I should add not just a once off thing) and gave me nothing back in return, could that be classed as abuse in some senses.

I think lots of things can be classed or not classed as abuse at the end of the day, there are some parents that should not have children at all the way they treat them and vice versa.

"life is a minestrone, served up with parmesan cheese, death is a cold lasagne suspended in deep freeze"

I was. From 6 to 9, by 2 persons. None of 'em were family members. But one my mom's knows and like him. She also suggested me to look for him again! But she doesn't really know who was my abuser...although I gaved hints it was him. She just know I'm a victim and nothing else.

And I don't think many of the pedophiles here were abused. Except by me, I don't know anyone here who does. And except by me, I don't know any victims that have turned to be pedophiles.

I think that I was. but its very hard to remember because I was very young. I don't think it had anything to do with me becoming a pedophile.

Zebramouse wrote:I think that I was. but its very hard to remember because I was very young. I don't think it had anything to do with me becoming a pedophile.

With all due respect, how can people not know? Having read around the forum, there are a lot of people who think they were abused despite no evidence at all.

If I said that I was kidnapped regularly by aliens..
But
Had no physical evidence
My friends and family never saw anything
Couldn't remember the events at all...
You'd rightly think it never happened.

I wasn't abused, so that didn't influence my offending

I do have a memory of being abused, but it could have been a false memory or a dream.

What you mean by that, Platonic? Do you really think someone would create a memory just to look cool or whatever you call it? Have you ever pass by this or do you know someone who's been dealing with that? Do you have ANY idea how it is, how it feels and how it happens? Because your comparison is pure bullsh*t.
And please, explain to me what's a "Evidence" on that matter, because I don't get it what you meant with that.

And Zebramouse, get lost. If you have been abused you would know it, that's for sure.

So I guess your the only one that gets to be the victim. you cant tell me I wasn't abused. I just wasn't traumatized like some people are.