where you abused?

by **Robert_J** » Tue Sep 24, 2013 9:04 pm

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Ar Ciel wrote:I'm not saying tht "false memories" aren't real. It does happen, but...c'mon! How common is that in sexual abuse victims? You're asking for something impossible! It have passed 11 years since I was abused. How can I show some evidence of something that happened 11 years ago? I've felt too bad already thinking the abuse was totally my fault and then someone comes and practically says it isn't real and asks for evidence. But no, it's not. That's what I (and a lot others) call of "triggering". Those memories are way to real and when someone actually confirm it, you know it can't be false.
My mom confirmed I've come home several times with red eye, hematomas all over my back and some break bones, and all confirmed by a doctor when I was 7 and 8, when he asked how those have occured. And all of that I didn't remembered 'till last year when my mom'd come asking me what happened with me when I was a child, how I had all of those hematomas...I didn't even remembered this occured to me but F*CK it happened! There's a lot of things that happened that I don't feel to expose here. But please, don't go over saying repressed memories aren't true and asking for a evidence, specially to someone who have been through this.

1. I'm certainly not saying you weren't abused.
2. We cannot ever really know about false memory statistics, but we certainly know it has occurred on a large scale at times in the past.
3. Genuine discussion is a good thing , and while its a very sensitive topic, emotional (even when justified) reactions don't help discussion.
Again, I'm not saying you weren't abused. If you say you were, then I'll take you word on it. You have my sympathy.

by **Siamese Fever** » Wed Sep 25, 2013 5:13 am

Hmm, sexually? I talked to my mother about it, but she insists that I wasn't. I don't believe I was either for the most part, but that doesn't shake the peculiar feeling. There was some weird stuff that occurred in my childhood. Such was when my teen bro asked me to show him my dick when I was 5-or-whatever and my conduct on the internet. Weird is all it was though, as far as I'm concerned.

by **platonic** » Wed Sep 25, 2013 6:57 am

That vague feeling of dread is part of the human condition; our mind is still a jumpy semi-evolved ape brain.

by **Musicman** » Wed Sep 25, 2013 4:08 pm

To answer the OP's question, I was never sexually abused. My father has become pretty verbally/emotionally abusive, but that largely only came to be in my teen years, when my attractions to children had already developed. I was verbally/emotionally abused by a lot of children for a lot of years, and though I now have some deep problems related to that (I've got very extreme social anxiety), I don't see how my sexuality can be attributed to any of that.

For what it's worth, I'm close with about six other pedophiles who I've now known for a long time, and only one of them suffered sexual abuse as a child, and that was by a boy five years his senior. Interestingly, though, all of us with the exception of only one did suffer verbal/emotional and/or physical abuse as children, and of those of us who have, I don't think any of us would say we had happy childhoods.

by **HowardCL** » Wed Sep 25, 2013 10:29 pm

My uncle was a Pedophile as well and perhaps that is the reason I am one to this day and spent many summers with him from the time I was like 5 or 6 years old all the way until I was 18 and he did have sexual relations with me along with some of his pedo friends as well, he had other boys around as well. I am not sure if because of my experiences with him is why I ended up being a pedophile just like him. He is 6 feet under now after being murdered by the uncle of a boy that he ended up molesting! I am not going out like that though, or at least I hope not.

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