Pedophiles, if you had a daughter

If you had a daughter, would you be possessive and over-protective of her around other men? What if you knew suspected another guy was one and was showing her attention? Would you understand what he feels or want her for yourself only?

Or, how about you knew a girl and another guy was around that was trying for her attention and approval, how would you act or feel? Just curious..

I have a child. Every day I protect her and watch everyone around her. I do not have custody of her because I know I wouldn't be safe with her. I can control my urges rather well mostly its just my brain that gets me in "trouble". Since I know what I think about on a daily bases I know that there are others out there who think like me. When I have visits with my daughter and we go to the park I watch EVERYONE. Having a child and being who I am makes it so hard to relax. I'm always on guard duty and I wish more than anything I didn't have these feelings for the sake of my own child. Thankfully I know how people like me think so I know what to watch out for.

I think that I would be very protective of her and if a man came into her life when she was underage I would treat it just any boy that was trying to get with her and be very protective and if a man was trying to be in her life I would approach him and tell him to back off, yet of course I could be totally different if I did have a daughter. Good question.

I have a 3 month old daughter and I can tell you that me thinking about young girl In sexual fantasies is not even remotely part of the same world. There's my daughter and then there is that.
Obviously when she starts bringing her cute friends over for sleepovers there might be some anxiety but its nothing 5 minutes alone in my study wouldn't fix.

That's good to hear from everyone. I figured most would be overprotective knowing the feelings themselves and having that strong feeling of love/caring rather than doing just the opposite.

I think having a paraphilia makes you more suspicious of everyone. I know it does for me, cause I think that if someone as normal and unassuming as me can have those thoughts, then so can anyone, and I'll just never know who.

P0ppy wrote: I think that if someone as normal and unassuming as me can have those thoughts

That makes me think you are Ichi the Killer.

Paternal feelings win out, but like anything, you can never be 100% sure.

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P0ppy wrote: I think that if someone as normal and unassuming as me can have those thoughts

That makes me think you are Ichi the Killer.

Paternal feelings win out, but like anything, you can never be 100% sure.

Oh I would definitely not leave my child alone with ANY adult. Not even women can be trusted completely (case in point: me). I'm over protective with younger girls in my family.

I know that I personally would probably be a bit over protective. I know my feelings towards little girls so I know others feel the same and plenty enough of them won't have the same self control that I have. I would be suspicious of everyone, though mostly I just wouldn't want someone taking picures of my daughter splashing in the sea/a fountain on a hot day and then posting them online as you see with so very many pictures on certain websites. Someone enjoying the view would be ok, just as long as it was *JUST* enjoying the view.

callano wrote:If you had a daughter, would you be possessive and over-protective of her around other men? What if you knew suspected another guy was one and was showing her attention? Would you understand what he feels or want her for yourself only?

Or, how about you knew a girl and another guy was around that was trying for her attention and approval, how would you act or feel? Just curious..

I think saying "over-protective of her around men" is somewhat sexist and close-minded.
Women can be pedophiles too. Women can be as "perverted" as men can, although generally they aren't, because their way of thinking and their perception of their roles in society and perception of themselves doesn't allow them to...but there are exceptions. In my country, a group of teachers were condemned for child abuse and they're all women.
Women can be dangerous too. I met a girl who was my best friend and destroyed me psychologically, and she had very evil thoughts, yet she's 100% woman.
Another friend of mine, another girl, she stalked her ex-boyfriend for months.

I just think that women tend to be undervalued when it comes to crimes, they tend to be seen as "innocent" and "defenseless" due to their general behaviors/social roles.

That said....I have a niece, and when she grows up and gets to be a teenager, when first crushes and relationships appear, I'd surely have a talk with any guy approaching her (and not a nice one), and I'd be jealous and over-protective. I know I will, I inherited this from the environment I grew up in, where male figures tend to be very socially strong, jealous and protective towards female family friends. I live in an archaic place, I know, and you could call me close-minded, I know, but environment contributes a lot....
My brother's (her dad) is just like me, so she'll have two very protective figures to guide and defend her.
I would not be protective in an unhealthy way though, I think a young girl (but boy too) has to live her own life, but since this world is sick, she needs to be protected a lot.