Im a teen girl attracted to male pedophiles, why?

This is scary. Some pedophiles are sadistic, so your attraction could have put you in harm's way, besides possibly sending someone to prison. I don't think you're actually attracted to grown male pedophiles for any physical reasons. I think you're attracted to the idea that they may be drawn to you, or something you fancy, in some idolatrous fashion, and the fact that they would risk much for something for which you have such an affinity is exciting to you. I am an adult male pedophile, but I know for certain you would never be attracted to me: my sole attraction is boys. Your "interest" doubtless peaked and plummeted, there. LOL.
I'm really concerned about your propensity to want to see girls sexually abused and your "attraction" to men who would do so. If you act on it, it's a sure recipe for abuse of any female and/or male offspring of yours: of female, because of obvious reasons (your attractions to them, and possible encouragement of the same); and of male, because, while you may not abuse them sexually, it sounds like you might not even love them, and may possibly neglect them. I've seen something like this happen and would caution against it, even though I'm sure others think I'm over-reacting. I'm not sure if you're seeking help here, but this is my conscientious input.

Take my advice....Please get some help........I dont believe your feelings will just go away all by themselves, and they could get more extreme as you get older.
Good Luck....sweetie

Flee! Run to the hills! Panic! The sky is falling!
*cough*

Despite the dire panic of Amanda and Gerste, there is is nothing to worry about as long as the pedophile is law abiding....and thats a point relevant to ALL relationships; Criminality is a universal human fault.

Sure some pedophiles are sadists or bastards, but so are plenty of gay/bi/straight/shoe fetishist/etc people.

I'm finding this whole thread very interesting.

I too am a teenage girl (coming up to the end of my teens, though!) who spent much of her teen years chasing older men and pedophiles. I had a few sexcapades online (sending dirty pictures, having sexual talks), until I met a man who lived about half an hour away. We had a brief 'relationship' (in which I felt very uneasy), he promised to marry me and leave his wife so we could have kids together (guess why ), and showed me extremely disgusting material on his computer. This was when I was about 14-15 and so taking many risks online: eventually, the police showed up at my house because of a comment I posted on neopets (essentially a tale of sexual abuse presented as being true). The man I had a 'relationship' with is now in jail as far as I know.

It's important to note that any 'good' pedophile would probably avoid getting involved with vulnerable people, especially where the attraction is purely 'they're innocent and childlike' or somesuch. That is to say, anybody who is interested in you based on this is probably not the kind of person you actually WANT interested in you.

In the end I realised my motivations for seeking out pedophiles were thus:

• I felt very unattractive normally, and felt I would never be able to get a partner of my own age, because I was so 'ugly'. I knew there were people out there who would find me attractive simply because I was so young, and I pursued them. A big part of my self-worth was based on being sexually attractive and 'good' to older men.
• I wanted to be a little girl again, some part of me still FEELS like a child, and what better way to confirm I'm 'just a little girl' than find somebody who is attracted to children to doink me? (twisted logic!)
• I'm uncertain if this developed around them or it was there before, but I was/am attracted to children myself: having 100 different guys tell me how 'hot' I am based on that was really nice for somebody with low self-esteem. Plus I could be honest about my attraction with no judgement (that wasn't 100% a good thing!)
• I believe I was re-victimizing myself after past abuse.

AndTobiMakesTwo wrote:I'm finding this whole thread very interesting.

I too am a teenage girl (coming up to the end of my teens, though!) who spent much of her teen years chasing older men and pedophiles. I had a few sexcapades online (sending dirty pictures, having sexual talks), until I met a man who lived about half an hour away. We had a brief 'relationship' (in which I felt very uneasy), he promised to marry me and leave his wife so we could have kids together (guess why ), and showed me extremely disgusting material on his computer. This was when I was about 14-15 and so taking many risks online: eventually, the police showed up at my house because of a comment I posted on neopets (essentially a tale of sexual abuse presented as being true). The man I had a 'relationship' with is now in jail as far as I know.

It's important to note that any 'good' pedophile would probably avoid getting involved with vulnerable people, especially where the attraction is purely 'they're innocent and childlike' or somesuch. That is to say, anybody who is interested in you based on this is probably not the kind of person you actually WANT interested in you.

In the end I realised my motivations for seeking out pedophiles were thus:

• I felt very unattractive normally, and felt I would never be able to get a partner of my own age, because I was so 'ugly'. I knew there were people out there who would find me attractive simply because I was so young, and I pursued them. A big part of my self-worth was based on being sexually attractive and 'good' to older men.
• I wanted to be a little girl again, some part of me still FEELS like a child, and what better way to confirm I'm 'just a little girl' than find somebody who is attracted to children to doink me? (twisted logic!)
• I'm uncertain if this developed around them or it was there before, but I was/am attracted to children myself: having 100 different guys tell me how 'hot' I am based on that was really nice for somebody with low self-esteem. Plus I could be honest about my attraction with no judgement (that wasn't 100% a good thing!)
• I believe I was re-victimizing myself after past abuse.

Now this is an interesting post, the motivations, all of them, seem logical to me

AndTobiMakesTwo wrote:I'm finding this whole thread very interesting.

I too am a teenage girl (coming up to the end of my teens, though!) who spent much of her teen years chasing older men and pedophiles. I had a few sexcapades online (sending dirty pictures, having sexual talks), until I met a man who lived about half an hour away. We had a brief 'relationship' (in which I felt very uneasy), he promised to marry me and leave his wife so we could have kids together (guess why ), and showed me extremely disgusting material on his computer. This was when I was about 14-15 and so taking many risks online: eventually, the police showed up at my house because of a comment I posted on neopets (essentially a tale of sexual abuse presented as being true). The man I had a 'relationship' with is now in jail as far as I know.

It's important to note that any 'good' pedophile would probably avoid getting involved with vulnerable people, especially where the attraction is purely 'they're innocent and childlike' or somesuch. That is to say, anybody who is interested in you based on this is probably not the kind of person you actually WANT interested in you.

In the end I realised my motivations for seeking out pedophiles were thus:

• I felt very unattractive normally, and felt I would never be able to get a partner of my own age, because I was so 'ugly'. I knew there were people out there who would find me attractive simply because I was so young, and I pursued them. A big part of my self-worth was based on being sexually attractive and 'good' to older men.
• I wanted to be a little girl again, some part of me still FEELS like a child, and what better way to confirm I'm 'just a little girl' than find somebody who is attracted to children to doink me? (twisted logic!)
• I'm uncertain if this developed around them or it was there before, but I was/am attracted to children myself: having 100 different guys tell me how 'hot' I am based on that was really nice for somebody with low self-esteem. Plus I could be honest about my attraction with no judgement (that wasn't 100% a good thing!)
• I believe I was re-victimizing myself after past abuse.

Thank you for your post. Yours is the kind of post the initial inquirer needed to hear. Any kind of "relationship" based on a need to feel attractive is doomed to failure and devoid of all enjoyment on the part of the person who feels this way. It's similar to people seeking relationships because of a kind of narcissism. She likes him, and he likes him; or he likes her, and she likes her. Both like the same person: one, the other; and the other, him/herself. The relationship is not based on mutual love, but half based on selfishness. Once the narcissistic person realizes that they can't stand the person they never loved to begin with, they are sad and dejected, and sometimes trapped. Pursuing a pedophile because they are attracted to something you are attracted to, or because they are attracted to you, is a recipe for disaster if it is a failure; but even worse if it is a success. For "success," in such cases, would not only mean victimization of yourself, but of others. I hope you can warn others like this girl. This is coming from a pedophile attracted to boys.

Some part of me feels rather slighted.

Yes there are terrible pedophiles and terrible relationships, but wtf there are plenty of crappy people who ya shouldn't date.

If the OP had posted she was attracted to (let's say) black men, we wouldn't be warning her off or fretting about her need for attention. In facr we would repudiate those who warned her off because of the race factor.

Attraction is morally neutral, and normal relationships are polyvalent; sexual compatibility, desire to be wanted, common interests. All of these factors (and a million more) make up a real world relationship and thats why relationships are fun.

I like Baroque music and Charles Dickens, it's only natural that I'd find others with these interests more attractive/interesting. Being attracted to similar interests is a basis of normal relationships- I don't see why pedophiles should isolate themselves from (legal) relationships.

I have to agree with Platonic, our relationships tend to be influenced by our surroundings as is our development. There is evidence that victims tend to find themselves falling for captors and those who abuse them, there is also evidence of victims becoming the perpetrator of the same crimes that were committed against them.

Let me ask you a question, and I beg you to reply honestly: would you like abusing a little girl together with a pedophile? Like, the two of you together abusing the girl?

I don't mean to be too direct or explicit, but an answer to this question will allow me to better understand what your exact feelings and fantasies are.

personally I wouldn't like doing that as I know how it feels to be the victim and it's something you carry with you for the rest of your life, some people tend to cope differently with these situations but for me I wouldn't want the cycle of abuse to continue.