Rant about forum etiquette & tolerance

ReVamp wrote:Anon means anonymous.

Forum rules
You are entering a forum that contains discussions of a sexual nature, some of which are explicit. The topics discussed may be offensive to some people. Please be aware of this before entering this forum.

Each forum as some sort of quote on top of the page for you to see before you post or read. There's not a whole lot more admins or mods can do.

Another thing I would suggest for everyone to remember, this is a psych forum! We are NOT all on the same baseline lol. Also, some times some thing is posted and taken the wrong way, it happens. All this should eliminate most of the issues but of course this is no utopia and there will still be some issues that come are way.

Tabs wrote:

xoPinkerbelleox wrote:
Hides sketchily in bushes collecting data on Tabs while wearing fake mustache to conceal identity....

Oh! Erm...nothing to see here!

Are you flirtin' with me?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0ettnurSN6s

Platypus wrote:I used to be a mod but I'm not anymore, so my opinion is nothing more than another opinion, but I want to post about something that's bothering me all the same.

There seems to be a trend to attack people for stating their views and for calling them trolls or suggesting they be banned. That's poor etiquette and I wouldn't be surprised if it's against the forum rules. If you disagree with someone, disagree with what he or she is saying - you don't need to attack him or her as a person.

Personally, I think it's really healthy to have a variety of opinions, especially on a topic such as paraphilias. To my mind, the most 'dangerous' or unhealthy forums are those where people with conflicting opinions are rejected and members are pressured to conform to a single way of looking at things. When one view dominates all others, there is less room to question what is being said, and when people don't think for themselves, they're less likely to take responsibility for their own actions.

Paraphilias are a controversial topic. There is a lot of ignorance, prejudice, and negative emotions out there, and we're not all going to respond in the same way. Some paraphiles may feel deeply ashamed and experience suicidal ideation; others may be very angry and want to lash out at elements of society. Some may be more focussed on finding ways to cope with their own problems, others on improving social attitudes and support systems. I think there should be room for all these views as paraphilias are both a personal and a social problem.

If a post offends you or is in breach of the forum's rules/purpose, you can report it. (Use the red exclamation mark icon on the relevant post.) The mod team will be alerted and they will decide whether posts need to be edited, or members need to be warned or banned etc.

If you disagree with someone's views, you can choose to ignore him/her or even hide their posts by adding their user name to your list of Foes (in the User Control Panel). I struggle to find common ground with some people and I think that's often because their values are just too different from mine. Alternatively, you can choose to explain why you don't agree with them.

If someone has ideas that are potentially harmful to themself or to others, I think it's much better for us to talk about it than to call each other names or push people away. For some people their paraphilia may have taken on the form of a mental illness and they may be blind to how they are distorting truths to support their own sexual desires. Or they may be dealing with mental health problems that are additional to their paraphilia. Unless they are actually advocating criminal acts or in breach of forum rules, why should they be driven away? This is primarily a mental health peer support site, not an alternative sexualities site, so if the forum is not for them, who is it for?

So let's try to be supportive of each other even if we don't share the same views.

Do not post to a member who has a paraphilia which could motivate them to do something illegal and try to convince them that their sexual arousal is normal, not harmful, or that they should simply accept it.

Tabs wrote:I will return as soon as graveyard is permanently banned.

Tabs wrote:Ban everyone who doesn't like me or I'll just never come back here again, no biggy.

I mean, in case you didn't notice, I run the world.

I have 12 sites of my own already, you think I need this?

I don't.

I'm only here because you desperately need me to show you the proper way in which to live.
Isn't that why you come here?


troll f**ker?

what's really sad is i couldn't even read one post in that cp thread, because everyone is on my ignore list, because they're rude obnoxious trolls who destroy everything good in the world so.


I'm sort of like one of the mods
only way smarter and better than them even


-- Thu Aug 29, 2013 9:46 pm --

seriously seriously seriously

the fact that this douche actually posted this thread, rather than hit the report button or just PM a staffer, only proves he does NOT belong online, much less, around psychos.

-- Thu Aug 29, 2013 9:50 pm --

I'm about to be banned and let me tell you why.

There are no pedophiles here.
See, I run the pedo community, and 98% of you are fake decoy sock puppets invented by the staff to monitor you and collect data for police agencies, and they get alot of money for doing it.


That is why they're running me off.


So basically, if you're a pedophile, don't come here, just google tabitha church.

Ar Ciel wrote:What the f*** am I reading here. No, it's not ANYTHING related to OP or other posts, but that guy Tabs.
When I first joined the forum, people were friendly and all the debating was pretty good to read. It still have good debates and such, but, c'mon! Some people log here just to rage and criticise. Shouldn't people like that...agh...be banned outta here? Yeah, it's you, Tabs. Sorry mate! But you're not the star of the show!