Is pedophilia like this ?

Raven1976 wrote:So what am I struggling with. When I see an attractive kid I have an urge to touch them that is overwhelming.

How old are you? Have you touched a child? Maybe you could start visiting a therapist. Has anything happened in your life recently that could have triggered this?

37 and my urges started at 8. No I have never touched its been hard not to. My urges come and go. Sometimes they are bad. Sometimes not.

To me it sound like t's not your paedophilia itself you're struggling with. As others have said, it's like an attraction to other, more socially acceptable, people. I think what you're strugglig with is an urge to dominate, or potentially rape and if you weren't bound by your paraphilia then your urges would simply be the same, just for adults instead of children.

I advise you seek help. Just be flexible with the truth and don't mention that it's children. The help you need is the same either way.

Anon539 wrote:To me it sound like t's not your paedophilia itself you're struggling with. As others have said, it's like an attraction to other, more socially acceptable, people. I think what you're strugglig with is an urge to dominate, or potentially rape and if you weren't bound by your paraphilia then your urges would simply be the same, just for adults instead of children.

I advise you seek help. Just be flexible with the truth and don't mention that it's children. The help you need is the same either way.

I agree, depending where you are you could get arrested if you mentioned it's children. Don't you have a best friend in which you could confine in? If you spend a long time without masturbating or having sex that could help to make this compulsion stronger.

See for me it is different. If I am near a kid and I find them attractive I have the urge to touch them and it is super scary and I fear I will. I don't not think about it later, or masturbate or anything. My urge to touch them are just so great because I want to feel like what it would be like to touch them so I am in fear i will choose my desires over not hurting them.

Raven1976 wrote:See for me it is different. If I am near a kid and I find them attractive I have the urge to touch them and it is super scary and I fear I will. I don't not think about it later, or masturbate or anything. My urge to touch them are just so great because I want to feel like what it would be like to touch them so I am in fear i will choose my desires over not hurting them.

The urge will always be with most of us, I said and I repeat... depending on where you live do find a therapist, it's a battle that should be fought with help and not by yourself. You should masturbate or have sex with someone of your age to relieve yourself sexually, it might help to make the urge weaker. PM if you want

I think you need to develop your self control skills. Maybe you could go to therapy or that. Maybe say you are an impulsive shopper or something more acceptable. Or a klepto.

I've never felt an 'overwhelming' urge to touch a child or an adult. I admit, there are girls I find it hard to stop staring at, who haunt my thoughts for prolonged periods, but I suspect that this wouldn't be abnormal if it happened with an 'adult.'

I've even been deeply in love with a little girl once, long ago, who I now haven't seen in over 4 years. I don't know if she ever figured it out, but she's pretty much a genius, so it's possible she did eventually. Anyway, I loved her more than Life itself. She was absolutely everything to me, my whole world, the only reason I got out of bed some days.

But I never touched her inappropriately. The only times I touched her, were the two times she let me hug her (I blushed for like five minutes the first time) and the time that she took cake from my hand, her tiny fingers touching my palm.... time actually stopped for me, the image of her smile burned itself into my brain...

But still, I found it easy to contain myself. I sometimes wonder why some people have problems with containing themselves, and I wish there was a way to help them, and thus help all of us...