Need Help with Sister

After moving back near family after being away 12 yrs I've observed strange stuff with my sister over the 2 yrs being here. Things also have come to a head for her personally. Our dad died, she left her alcoholic abusive spouse, then she lost her job. So we wonder if stress is a contributor.

She has been involved with a political party and protesting, so there is some truth to what she thinks is going on with the government out to get her, and at first we listened and believed her. Then it got to the point we wanted proof. Now it is the same stuff over and over--someone is tapping her phone, someone is following her car GPS, someone is hacking into her phone and computer, was it someone she talked to at my dad's funeral, was it the landlord from the apartment she stayed in 25 years ago...? Worse she asks me "Do you know anything". I thought it was so odd because I lived so far away across the country I can't believe she would tie me into her mess.

She shows up at my house every 2nd weekend, my moms whenever she wants and has tried to break into my sister's house while she was away. I think she tried to break into mine too since she knew where my spare key was, but we had removed it.

We can't have a normal conversation with her. She says everyone is trying to make out she is crazy because if she appears crazy they can lock her away and get what they want. They ultimately want to ruin her reputation and take her pension so she will be left with nothing.

Her work that layed her off wants her to be phychologically tested but of course she thinks it's to frame her. She doesn't see medical doctors and would never take a pill. She is fortunate she has severance income still but I'm sure that will end eventually. She spends money like water. She always calls to say she's broke, but the next thing she's taking her kids out for dinner, to movies, golfing, trips, etc.

So...I've understood you can't help them and they won't listen, so how do you deal with them. Every time she is over she stresses me out.

Her poor kids.

hi roxy. first, i'm sorry about the loss of your dad. i just lost my dad 1 month ago.also sorry about your sister.you say you can't have a normal conversation with her;people are tapping her phone;people are following her.of course we can't reason with an unreasonable person. her reality is not the same reality as most of us.it's truly sad.no matter what you say about proof,no doubt she believes she has proof.my husband's "proof" was never legitimate but made total sense to him.i keep thinking...there must be a way to reach them.but how?i don't know.for now,maybe just listening and keeping communication open.it's exhausting at times but they are sick.it's not their fault.that being said,we as family have to find a balance in our own lives because,if we don't, their sickness can drag us into a constant rollercoaster ride.wishing you and your family the best.