I am in the process of a divorce. My husband had PPD, before he left he bugged our house. He's extremely jealous, distrustful,verbally abusive, etc and and he's been this way his whole life, only it's gotten much worse over the past few years as I have tried to stand up to him and prevent him from controlling and diminishing my life. Therapy made me realize I was in an abusive and controlling relationship. His brother is schizophrenic.
We have 3 children. He's attacking with the court system like crazy. He's got his corporate attorneys writing me letters and we are litigating the smallest thing in family court. His anger at me is off the charts and he is very volatile. He is making up lies in court about my behavior and making me jump through all kinds of hoops. He told me he wants to destroy me personally, financially and professionally. The court has given me more time than him with the kids (5 out of 14 days for him, but he is taking that to the judge).
I'm considering using this as an opportunity to have him psychologically tested? Is it worthwhile? Is he potentially dangerous to our children? What are the long term consequences of them having to deal with their dad and his problems? Eventually they will be "distrustful." In addition, he has serious problems with seeing other people's perspective and can be personally mean.
It has been very difficult for me, even though I have tried very, very hard to help him and demonstrate to him I was a good wife. Can PPD be diagnosed by a psychiatrist? He is very, very smart. If it is, will it matter to the court? I'm afraid personally and I don't know if I should be fighting for more custody or letting things stand. How will this affect our children without me in the middle to moderate? My anxiety goes up and down, but the recent legal battles have taken their toll and my anxiety is extremely high. Am I safe? More importantly what is my best strategy with the kids?