Need help coping with a partner with PPD?

Hi all.. First can i say what a great forum, this has been a great comfort and help to me learning I am not alone.. It is a difficult task to live with somebody who has this disorder. I have been with my boyfriend for just over a year.. we have a 3 month old son who is a wonderful child. I fear for when he gets older having to deal with a father with PPD. I also have another child with ADHD and my partner does not tolerate my sons ADHD well. I am not sure if I will be able to tolerate living with someone who has this condition forever.. but at the moment I am going to try and SUPPORT him the best I can. Because his condition only affects us about 10% of the time. 90% of them time we are happy.

One thing I have learned is DO NOT take their insults personally. Its best to not react to them and just act as if they have never happened. PPD sufferers do not mean these insults and cant help the things they say. Often my partner will go off on one calling me many names but is ALWAYS apologetic afterwards. I dont think this condition can be cured but I believe it can be managed and it depends on how you react to people with this disorder. So yes the first thing would be dont take insults personally, they dont mean it. Secondly, try not to get mad with them, it can be very frustrating being accused of things you havent done. The best thing to do is ignore the accusations. Just state ur innocence when questioned, but dont prolong the conversation. These accusations only exist in their mind. Dont let them become a part of yours as well. Be very open and honest about who you are texting/calling/messaging and always explain to them what you are doing. This makes PPD sufferers less paranoid if they know where they stand. Never insult a person with PPD. This causes them to become very angry and confirms in their mind that people are out to get them. Plus they will never forgive any insult and they will see this as a reason to insult u however they like as u have already insulted them. Do not try to help them in any way as this is seen as an insult.It makes them feel as though u think they dont know what they are doing and someone with PPD likes to be perfect and do everything for themselves. Hug them often. It is amazing what a cuddle can do to alleviate paranoia Hope this helps someone. Its never going to be easy living with someone with this condition. I wish you all the best Good luck!