by My2cents » Thu Aug 25, 2011 4:06 pm
An alcoholic will not admit to being an alcoholic if he is a functional alcoholic. He will admit it when he can no longer deny that alcoholism is messing up his life. If he is getting physically sick, wasting all his money on alcohol, losing friends because of his drunken behavior, multiple traffic tickets and losing his license, family falling apart, he will admit it. Then he might look back, once it is too late, and realize he was already on his way down during the functional stage.
If a paranoid can no longer function with the paranoia, can no longer find someone else to blame for his problems, and has no choice but to face the facts, I suppose he would admit it. Only when there is no place to hide.
One problem alcoholics have is enablers. If an alcoholic is allowed to continue drinking and the consequences are postponed, he will still drink, and drink even more, until his enabler is no longer able to keep up. People tend to find other people who will allow them to keep doing what they do. It's usually much easier to do than growing. There is no shortage of people ready to hinder another's development - "It's not your fault", "It's them, not you", "You shouldn't have to change", "It's okay to be a little bit euphemistic-understatement-for-what-you-are", "I'll continue supporting you regardless of your behavior (or make threats you know are empty)" - and the people who need to grow the most are adept at detecting these people.