Wife has PPD ... how can I help her?

I tell u what ... I slept last night! Nobody crying in the middle of the night! This priest idea was a good move. She possibly sees him as some neutral person who cannot possibly wish her harm. Agree with you, some sort volunteer work should help. I will try to talk her into it! Thanks for the tip.

Well, to be honest, who in their right mind would be angry with a priest? It would feel so bad doing such a thing because - for one - a priest is generally well-known and liked in the community, and having a grudge with one is not something anyone would want. Even I - the harshest critic of religion - would never speak ill words to a priest. In fact, I respect them greatly (apart from the ones who have abused children). Anyway, keep me posted. Things seem to be going quite well.

Same here, Im actually not a believer but I respect and share the same social values. Pity some abuse of it to justify wars and harm others. Back to the subject, this guy gave me a good impression straight away and seems to have helped a lot of folks in the past thus he must have some experience. When I spoke to him, he knew a lot. So a priest helps, but possibly not any priest either. If there is somebody out there following these posts because he/she is living a similar drama, I can mention two things which have helped (but not solved): 1) involve a neutral person, like I did with he priest, and 2) the puppy I got her (she chose it)also helped (well, more neutral than a dog! ) as makes her smile and keeps her company. Note though, that a dog brings other commitments as well, needs to be loved and given good care, so depends on one's circumstances as it can backfire and not fair on the dog either.

Hmm, this is very pleasing. You seem to be handling the entire situation very well dude. I think that my work here is done! ...in fact, you seem to have done most of it

Thanks mate ... trying all I can. I have to thank you for following my case and for all the adv. Thanks also to Zero. She has been calm for a couple of days now, though mentioning something every now and then. I know its far from over, and possibly it will never be from what I read in other threads. But have no intention to give up on our marraige (18yrs in a week!). She has been a good wife and mother. So its a case for better or for worse .... I will keep in mind all you have told me! thank you so much!

18 years... ...wow. My brother only got married last Monday, and I'm very far from getting married. I don't even have a girlfriend, but I'm rather anti-social as you might have guessed. Good luck with everything dude.

Congratz to your brother and wish him the best of luck! Dont think ure anti-social as otherwise u would not have tried to help me out. U probably just like your own space and independence (my brother is like that). If ure happy like this, good for you. When u feel like sharing it, it will be the time to go fishing! Good luck!

Thanks - I never tried fishing - and I saw my brother and his wife today. I actually bought my first 'sister-in-law' card to day too and gave it to her, only then realising that it was a 'happy birthday sister-in-law' card! Why would they make a card so specific as that!? We had a laugh about it anyway.

Hi Chucky ... hope al lis doing well with your brother and sis-in-law ... wish u more laughing opportunities!
My wife has been relatively ok, and possibly the longest break I ever had since this all started. She still mentions things but nothing like before. Are there known cases of complete recovery? Thanks

Recovery is a strange word to use when considering something that is mentally-related. I mean, it' snot like a cut that heals over. With mental health, the memories are always there. Even if she comes out of her paranoia, she'll always remember that she was paranoid, and those paranoid thought-processes can be specifically activated again. What might change - however - is that when the paranoid thought-processes are activated, she might be able to dismiss them quickly and get on with her day (and life).

Does that make sense?