How does one respond to a person who suffers from PPD?

I know what you are going through, I just posted about my boyfriend today, and it seems very similar. Its all about sex, or the lack of it. And jealousy and paranoia. he just seems to get worse and worse and just like you're husband, he laughs at the idea that he might be sick, or need to go see a dr. about this. he would never take traditional medication, so on that we're totally stuck. We're not married and have no kids and I wonder about just getting out now, because will it ever get better? I don't want to leave him, but like you, I am worn down to nothing from his verbal abuse when he is paranoid and anxious. any advice ? I'm emotionally and physically and mentally exhausted.

My husband has PPD which became Delusional, jealous type about 3 years ago. He lost 30 lbs., became manic about following my whereabouts, etc. We have been married 30 plus years. I just kept reassuring him that I loved him but that didn't always help. He'd calm down for awhile, then go back on the attack (verbal) later. I made our grown sons and his employees aware of his disorder and they kind of used it as a joke with him. After about a year and a half the delusion resolved itself. Now he is just back to accusing me of "wandering around" shopping or "going somewhere"--this has been going on for years. Needless to say, I feel sometimes I have to sneak to do the grocery shopping. He runs his own company as he couldn't work for anyone else (lots of quitting) and blew off quite a great position in the family business by manipulating situations which made it SEEM like they were at fault, but in reality he didn't want to win the fight--just wanted to start his own business, but needed to have it be "their fault" that he "had to" start his own business.His brother who stayed in the business has three ocean front homes and two airplanes and my husband is looking at working with his hands until the day he dies with little money or hope--but he IS working for himself!!!! WHen first married, I noticed little things like whenever something was missing around the house, he thought it had been "stolen". He also had to control every situation in our marriage. Always is complaining about whoever I am working for. But always puts us in the position of having to have me work outside the home (I already work in his business). Others that have overhead his complaining don't understand why anyone would complain about their wives' working, as most wives do nowadays. The worst thing, however, is that he has transmitted this disorder to our oldest son who is a virtual recluse in his home. He was diagnosed with OCD in high school and as he approached age 21 he became court involved because of a violent fight in which he used a knife when he was set upon by a gang of men. He didn't go to jail because the circumstances were that he stated that he didn't want to fight and tried to escape.(there were many witnesses) but he got beat anyway. Unfortunately he used a knife to superficially wound one of the attackers--that's a no-no in our legal system--though it seems to be working for Israel in Gaza. He did manage to graduate from college but because of his felony can only work for us. In many ways he is wonderful. He hates t.v. and has an extensive library of books, but he was a loner growing up, with one friend, and he was a very difficult child to raise. He always insisted on his own way, was very manipulative to get what he wanted (similar to his father) and was abusive to his year-younger brother who was normal in infancy and childhood, became the best athlete, good scholar, very popular and graduated from an ivy league college. He lives in NYC now and wants nothing to do with his brother. Recently, when he isn't working for us, he hides out in his apt. (has a girlfriend of 5 years--remarkably) and studies the Bible. Just like all his obsessions from 2 years of age on (then it was Star Wars figures), he's gone overboard. He was reared Catholic, though not strict because I am agnostic. He now believes anything post Vatican II is wrong and only goes to Latin Masses. And only Latin parishes that emphasizes dislike of the Masons and the Jews. He obsessively reads web-sites of paranoids (did you hear the one titled "An Examination of Obama's Use of Hidden Hypnosis Techniques in His Speeches"? An obvious paranoid schizophrenic (highly intelligent) wrote this one.

My husband has siblings that have been diagnosed with one disorder or another. One is Aspbergers, another has Borderline Personality Disorder, several have ADHD and his mother is a definite Histrionic (Yes, you CAN be sexually provocative at age 85--at least she still tries--and inappropriately so).

My advice (I'm in my 60's now)-- get out while you're young and don't reproduce with the PPD.