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Loneliness

Postby FriedPiper » Mon May 12, 2008 12:38 pm

Does anyone here get lonely?
Being paranoid can make you pretty isolated...I for one dont have too many friends, and rarely get out of the house much.

I feel lonely all the time, as if I want to have some one around. But then when im not lonely, I tend to skitz out and not enjoy it.
Damn it can be frustrating!

Deep down i just wanna feel loved :(
I guess im just bitter, but I so hate seeing couples, cause it reminds me how sad life is when your alone.

I guess imjsut ranting cause im feelin down...
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Postby Hamlet » Mon May 12, 2008 5:26 pm

What you said made me wan tot cry. My father has what I highly suspect to to be paranoid persinality Disorder. Althuogh it may be lonely for you, I have never heard someone word it the way you did. I wonder and pray this is the way my father feels. I have to remeber deep down he just wants to be loved and as much as he pushes us away, or drives us crazy, he really loves us. Loves me. Deep down you guys are no diffrent than the rest of us and long for companionship. I miss the days whenI was little and my father trusted me. :cry:
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Postby FriedPiper » Tue May 13, 2008 12:56 pm

Hey im glad what I said affectd you like that.
And you actually made me think too. All the time im always thinking about how things are for me, I never give too much thought to how my being effects other people.
Im sorry to hear about your dad, it must be really sad. And yes! That is true, although its hard to admit, and strange to understand, pushing people away is a sign that we care.
I hope your dad gets better btw.
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Postby Hamlet » Tue May 13, 2008 6:53 pm

Ha-
Well, if you can learn from my ituation here's another thing to learn: he won't get better. He can't. He doesn't know he has a problem. Unlike you he has yet to admit it to himself and is so intrenched in his distrust that he like won't see it for himself. Every time he gets close to it and then he snaps back to his old ways and distrust those of us who try to help him. Don't feel bad for me, I'm beyond it, it's my little sister that scares me. Poor thing.. only ten and trying to find the truth while having her father confuse her. I was a little younger than ten when my father gave up trusting me. She's on her way out with him. She has less than a year I suspect before he starts (if hasn't already) pushing her away and distrusting her. That's why I'm on this board, my little sister is being driven insane by my father. I want to help her. I rember that stage in my life when I waspushed away from him. I thought it was me and tryed everything to get back intouch and on the trust with him. I pray my litle sister remains trusting of me and not effect by the words of my father or even I won't be able to help her!
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Postby Hamlet » Tue May 13, 2008 6:59 pm

So how do you help a paranoid trust? Being that you are in this yourself what helps break the cycle?
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Postby FriedPiper » Thu May 15, 2008 12:48 am

Well..you dont.
Theres not much anyone can do for them, because no matter how you try to help, it will still be left to his interpretation, and given that he already distrusts he wont be able to accept your motives are good-intentioned.

Do you talk to him much? Try making your talks with him rewarding in some sort of way. Be honest, but compliment things hes doing well, like if hes getting better, tell him so. Focus on the positives, but dont lie about it. And try not to talk about his paranoia, until he feels like talking about it. Hopefully, he will get well enough to be able to open upto you.

But seriously consider asking a professional. I dont think many people on this forum are qualified enough to give bulletproof advice, and Im not one of them either.
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Postby De_Fugere » Sun Aug 03, 2008 6:59 am

The longest I haven't spoken was for a month. I haven't spoken to anyone for three days this week. I read somewhere that each man is a prison because of his desire to share his life experience but is unable to. And this desire to express is a proof that each man wants a way out. It's lonely to be in a prison. My emotions are hungry jaws gnawing at one another in silence.
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