Today My AHA, My relative is Paranoid.

I have had a very difficult time, and my sibling is married to a person whom has lots of hidden and covert issues. He eventually keeps accusing the person of many things to the spouse, and then the spouse get's on the bandwagon and throws out their "guest." This goes on year after year, the one whom likes to help and to have people around invites guests, then the paranoid one is pressuring, OCK, and the guest must walk on egg shells until the paranoid one starts threatening something to the spouse to force them to throw the guest out. I mean, I have moved in, 9 times as a homeless relative, and have been forced back out with covert emotional abuse/bullying from both partners. I am convinced as well as my other sibling has figured out that the inviter(sibling of ours) is getting a break from emotional abuse when they get a "Guest" into the house, because the spouse abuses the guest instead of their partner for the first several weeks, then gets sick of the guest not playing the "take the abuse" game, like they are Narcisstic supply, and the guest must leave because the abuse starts coming from both partners?

*In short, I realize the abuse is mostly stemming from paranoid issues and OCD, and narcissistic issues of the spouse of my sibling. (What a F---n mess!)

Ugh this sounds like my ex and I. I would go along with what he said because I didn't want to take his abuse, plus he'd gasslight the hell out of people. This can be dangerous for everyone. If possible get out of living there, and maybe work on an intervention with your sibling alone (preferably with others who've been affected.)