Tracking issues

My husband and I registered our marriage back in 2015. But due to tight finances, we only bought our house recently.

At the start of the relationship, there was a big fight where he suddenly lost trust in me and decide to break off. I found that his ex gf has been telling him negative stuff about me.

He always has a history complaining about how others treated him badly in his job or his superiors are incompetent.

Job A - Sales. He did not do well. He blamed his sister for not coaching him to the right career path and not helping him much. He said his sister misrepresent the products and thus make it big. He said that his sister said money is for grabs so just sell.

Job B- He was chasing after a colleague. He said that the girl was trying to play hard to get and get a group of female colleagues to "test" him and went out with a guy to make him jealous. He suspects his colleague sabo his work and make look bad. He scolded a girl. The girl reported him to HR for verbal abuse.

Job C - took on a six-month contract role. not sure how he got fired.

Job D- relatively stable for a year. Quit due to stress and having to clock thirteen hours a day.

Job E- claimed that his boss is incompetent. He said he tried to improve on a macro and his boss told him to change it back. he felt undervalued and was angry. Subsequently, his dad got cancer. He said his boss thinks he is lying about cancer. got upset and quit without a job.

Job F- took on a six-month contract role. Was asked to leave on the third month.

Job G- Took on a perm role, things were stable for the first sixth month. He said he felt empty but ok. He decides to sign on an MBA. He chooses to enroll into a top school because his sister said " only the top ones are recognized"

Somehow in the eighth month, he suspects that his company is tracking him. He said that his boss was talking to his colleagues about the contents on his phone. He said that his boss conversation is quite similar to what is discussed on the phone.

He switches phone, sim card etc. but he said problem persists.
I genuinely believe him at first and research on phone hacking, install anti spy etc. I even asked him to lodge the police report.

Subsequently, he found a new job H and quit.

He begins to wonder if the new boss is tracking him and even speculate that the boss brought the tracking technology from the ex-company or his ex-boss shared info.


He said he mentions on WhatsApp that his classmate mostly lawyers. He feels his new boss is tracking him because his boss said that legal industry is great to be in. He said the boss gave him eye contact when mentioning the word legal. The eye contract is proof that his boss is tracking him.



I told him that is impossible.
Considering the following: he is not holding a high post. His new boss hired ten new staff.. the company is profit focus than interested in his personal life.

He got really pissed and got violent and even his mom was present and helpless to stop him.

I was traumatised by his violence and told him that I am reconsidering about staying with him.

He got upset.

Sometime later, he thinks I am in cahoots with his ex-company.
His "evidence" is

- I said that the company is reputable.
-his colleagues only talk about our contents ( he doesn't have many friends or ppl to talk to)
-he only talks to his friend, mom and me with his new phone. His company continued to talk about his life.

He got into his loss of trust in me ( like in the start of the relationship) and become very verbally abusive. He is practically consumed by hatred with me over this tracking. want to divorce etc.

He feels nothing is wrong with him and simply refuses to seek help despite my pleas.

I spoke to his family and they feel that psychiatrist work only when he is ready to see one. I got my relatives to speak to his family but to no avail.

His friend got tired of my constant complaint and politely asked to be left out.

I feel emotionally and mentally drained out.

He is not getting better and getting more terrified of me

Hi the rainmakere,

how are things at the moment? I read your post and it hit close to home. I have a partner who displays similar behavior's. I have been with for 11 years, but only recently his intentions have turned to me and I am now the 'one conspiring against him' . I have found that there is no reasoning with him, and by trying to rationalize his thoughts, I get told that I am never on his side, and must be against him too. Has your husband been experiencing any traumatic or particularly stressful situations recently which may have exacerbated his paranoia?

Yes, he got worst

Discussed with two psychaist and both came back with DD instead of PPD. I feel he fits in both

casual forwarded messages from his social circles become my conspiracy against him

Telling him that a friend has depression is a gross gossipy act of conduct.

His boss gossip becomes my doing too.

As DD are, they have zero awareness of their condition

He just wrote that he is struggling not to attack his colleague workers cos he is hearing comments from them daily. I suspect he is hearing voices