People talk about me?

I've got this problem where if two people I know meet each other I instantly think they say horrible things about me behind my back. Of course this has a good reason, since it's happened before.

The problem is I can't control it, after they have met and all that maybe added each other on facebook, I start to panic and think that all the conversations they have are about me and how much they secretly hate me.


This all comes from an few experiences I've had in the past, When I first made a female friend I allowed her to meet my male friends and soon after she stopped talking to me and she dated one of them.

I know that it's unlikely that every person is like that but I can't risk it, I can't deal with the thought that every person I know talks horrible things about me, this includes teachers and family.

Does anyone have the same problems I do, I can't live life continue to live life worrying about what everyone says.

I've had that sort of experience. I still hate people talking about me. But it hasn't become paranoia. Mostly I just imagine that they don't talk or think about me at all. Which probably is a different problem.

I wonder if some CBT techniques might help here? Are you already seeing a therapist or counsellor? That might be best, so that you can tackle this with support. Otherwise it's hard to get the right perspective and balance between seeking privacy. And causing problems for yourself with paranoia.