my son has ADHD/ODD

he is very violent and his temper is just awful he smashes things up brakes things hits out at myself and his siblings every night and morning is a struggle he spits at me or just spits any were he wants swears but the thing that hes started to do that i find the worst of all is his sexual laungage he will say some disgusting things he is 8 yrs old he does see a doctor and is on medication he takes Eqasym 5mg 4 times a day and also wets the bed every night so he is on medication for that which really does help he is on imipramine 25mg he takes 2 at night i really feel like im on my own with this i have 4 children and they are all different none are angels but jack dosent do the swearing and spitting at school but they say he can be a handful at times and does shout out a lot and lacks consentration so is it me am i a bad parent is he like this because of something iv done im no longer with his dad i havent been for nearly 6 yrs he does still see his dad but not every week more like 1 a fortnight im a single parent who feels like her 8 yr old is taking over her life can anyone help me?

Hi,

I can understand your frustration on this matter. I know of a similar situation near to where I live but, in this particular case, the child actually physically attacks the mother by hitting and kicking her - There is no father in that family either. I believe that a father-figure is important because he (i.e. - the father) acts as a role model for the young boy and can influence greatly how he develops. There is nothing better than receiving a stern word from your father too when you have wronged.

How many times have you really put your foot down to stop your son's behaviour? You cannot be nice to him anymore, if he is not going to be nice to you. Also, if you make a decision on something (like, no pocket money for a week), then stick by it and don't reverse your decision. If you do reverse decisions, he will see you as weak.

Take care,
Kevin.