Is anyone out there going through this?

 I have a 14 year old daughter and we have been through many changes over the past couple years like divorce, moving, starting a new school just to name a few. She has not adapted well to any of these changes and seems to be spiraling out of control. She has been seeing therapists since the first grade but up until this past year no one has even been willing to discuss a diagnosis. She has been mistakenly medicated for ADHD which did NOT help and now for borderline personality disorder and depression. Part of the issue has been her father's refusal to give her the meds while she is with him. We have suffered thru the rages and refusal to follow rules but her grades have hit an all time low and having increased reports of defiance at school. She did spend a week in a psychiatric center due to cutting instances and suicide threats. Today was the first time I had heard of ODD and was wondering if anyone knows the difference between this and the BPD? I am completely alone and no one seems to understand how difficult this is on a daily basis. My 12 year old daughter is becoming more and more isolated trying to stay out of the conflict. I know all single mothers have it hard but I feel things have been much harder than they should be. I hope I am not coming across as whining I was just so relieved to find a place where I can talk to people who understand with no juidgement.

Hugs for you my darling! i do know! It is a nightmare at times. My daughter's odd. Odd is a childhood form of bpd it can and will develop into bpd from my reading.

I believe her to be more than odd i believe she has bpd but she is only 11' odd is basically the emotional dysregulation, tantrums, over reactivity to anything even small stuff like put on your socks, however it has to occur usually in one setting with certain people ours is home, and public like stores. Never school. I saw though pathological demand avoidance syndrome has to occur in more than one setting. She onky has her outbursts rages w mom n stepdad noone else.

These have included slamming doirs, throwing objects, verbal things like you dont love me, care about ne, you are the worst mother ever, i wush i was never born, striking iut ir hitting us wgen in aggression state being nean to sister, hitting her( its more like flailing out when she hits) walking intpintoparking lot traffic, stomping feet etc.

I no longer engage her when angered i let her say her peice tell her she can go to her room til she is calm then when shes deescalated ill talk w her. U must be calm, u must know her triggers. You must ask for things to be done a certain way. If it is her choice it is better, if i give options it is better. A lot of work tho.

She improves and backslides. We have had very serious lies from her which led to a unfounded cps case. She gives ne the creeps when she tells her stories. Its very disturbing. I feel something is very wrong w her. I don't know what it is though, i fear what will happen when puberty hits. What stories will sge tell then? She is so detailed and real in her stories everyone believe it. Even i do then sge sees my reaction my sympathy, my balling in tears bc i thought it was real then sge says no mom it didn't really happen. Omg, we are talking jail time for people stuff. She said i don't know why i did but i felt it was real when i told you. I was afraid it would happen to me.

We have her in very intensive in home counseling st home school and her reg councellor. She re recieves therapeutic day treatment for school. Through family preservation service through dss. It may b something your daughter would benefit from it is very intensive st home abd school each 3 dats a week. It just started so i hope it helps.

Something new is happening every couple days, i can't deal with much more. Now she has a bew cps case w her dad biologically. Suppose drug use in car w her. It is unending! I don't know if its true. I believe hrr, but i have that creepy feeling again. She doesnt get the consequences of talking about these things and then what it neans to those relationships and damage from the lie. It is like a compulsive thing or impulse or something.

I know i should have caught it early but i thought shed outgrow her tantrums and behavior but it only got worse the older she got. We also consider rad. Reactive attachment disorder a possibility with sone pervasive developmental disorder, ir cognitive disorder ss well.