There's plenty of media and informational takes on how there is a different "appearance vs. reality" reality for when it comes to "popular kids" in high school. How they have issues of their own, which they don't 'let off' lest their appeal diminishes.
My own cruddy experiences aside, when I think about my own cousins I don't think any of them were 'popular kids' ,so to speak. I mean, I would guess that at least ~4 and 1/2 were socially well-adjusted and had "rich,normal social lives".
1:37 p.m. going to press 'follow' on one of my cousin's fb account and see what might appear--1:39 p.m. ,meh ,nothing
With the cousins younger than my brother..I know that with two of them,they're not always as content as I'd think they'd be and the female cousin I'm thinking of comes to my mind. I've heard things after my siblings visited her on Thursday.
Anime affacionado, not into exercise, isn't always conspicously fond of a younger brother who might have developmental issues?...if it weren't for her I'm assuming adequate social life, conversational ability and (from what I've usually seen in her) emotional buoyancy, my thoughts would go to thinking that the former interests would take higher precedence than the latter statements and I'd be even more concerned.
Though a recent divorce, recently entering high school and it's (to me at least) petty social dynamics which most apparently well-adjusted not-me ppl can handle just fine ,though her being a girl, her mom's business efforts and living-place situation (let's just say 'potentially cramming/crowded')...seems like what might emerge is what might *"glibbly" =_= * be referred to as "teenage drama"...
Knowing how she even "talked back" to my sister,I'm afraid that if she saw this she'd be upset at me. A part of me is wondering about an element here, which might not be a valid factor..maybe not yet anyhow
to kinda quote someone else, "the culture bias in the hiring practices of the Catholic school board which would make things like bullying overlooked",stuff I can very much attest to..while I doubt somewhat whether what my cousin has undergone recently is bullying or even recent harassment (though I remember over the summer her talking about tensions with her friends).
What I believe is that when you have an institution which is able to somehow excluding a reality which is much more diverse than what winds up becoming normative for said institution (in this case an ostentatious -~- ,claim to be following something,a religion in this case), what winds up happening within are intrapersonal dynamics were what is detrimental might be more sharply "painful" than what's "outside the bubble/sphere" but is amplified all the more b/c it is happening within a bubble where a complacent consistency where such things are ignored or shrugged off (=-= by jacka--- or not). And if that's more or less the"only" reality you've been raised in, it can really s---k unless your up to ditching out.
I hope it's not like that for her and I hope it's not going to be anywhere like that for her in the ~5 yrs she might be their. Their's a public high school which she was considering before,I know that.
However her not having the "social web" of a "popular kid" only having 7+ close friends, I'd hope it wouldn't s---k for her (too much at least) if she transferred and delves into introversion for reasons a/o causalities which aren't too healthy,like I did.