Black outs?

Nadine has a personal way of expressing help.

Unfortunately, it can sound intimidating.

IT's hard when a reply comes in first person. "I never knew..until YOU..." that is where the problem comes.

I know it too well.

When it comes to a personal feeling, when directed AT someone...it can hurt...but, still good intensions are probably made.

"I never knew...until WHAT YOU WROTE...."

That's less intimidating..for the reply is on the reply and not the person.

I try my best to not compare myself with anyone...so i write it that way. But, people write directly to you...and sometimes it can be directed as a

A threat or challenge

Or a comparison.

I don't know enough about Nadine, but, when a person writes their thoughts to an emotional subject...it takes a novel to tell REALLY what they are saying. THey only have reply...and replies can be looked at in many directions for the thoughts of writer are never expressed totally.

So, as Nadine has to say, she only has so many words.

I got tangled in this as Sparrowhawk in the Anti-Psyche thread. I don't comment, anymore and changed my name.

I was used to writing sites that look at writing...anything that was directed toward you was an attack...two attacks...your out. Most of us...have ignore them...with a lot of help from other authors like me who do what i am doing.

The subjects we talk about our personal in nature. People will talk personal and direct. Yet, do they mean harm?

Your own replies, Chucky..to me, seem defensive..but, I could be totally wrong? You did a good job of clarifying. That's good!

But, viewers are all over the place and might think...that commenting will be direct and hurtful.

It's for them I really speak. THey might be afraid to comment at all?

As we quote, we can become defensive...but...there is always someone who can let you know that, what seems so personal...might be an emotional response of direct help...within their own perspective.

It's hard to tell the difference...but...as Nadines replies show...I see more toward the help side than hurtful. A gut felling?

Things to watch for that might be personal.

I think you.... very direct.

I have seen your comment and I think that...slightly less.

I know this....and i think that this...will...less.

I know this... and I think that this might... even less.

I can imagine that... I went through...do you think that this...Good.

It's the way it's put down...but..give everyone the dought that they are helping. It's a helping site!

Just ideas.

Entangled, i certainly didn't want to blame Chucky, that wasn't my intention at all, i was just being very honest. i really do hope it didn't come across as criticism. hey, i simply can't write in such a poetic and cryptic way as you do. seriously.
but your'e right, obviously our communication is limited to only the writing, so therefore we have to be more careful about how we express ourselves.
i have been wanting to ask you, what is SSDI? if you don't mind the question....


so Chucky, don't feel bad about sending me the link. i really don't feel any worse, on the contrary, i have learned something. so i'm actually thankful. and i promise i won't obsess about the question whether i do have ocd or not.

It's ok

*hug*

Hug X2 and a kiss on the forehead for luck...don't slap me!

See, us writers tend be very strange...and I knew that you were not a critique. It's in the words and other words you say. Us writers read too much...see between lines and look at things.

Good in some ways...bad in others?

SSDI...sort of like an iron-maiden with blunt points...kidding?

Socially Suductive "Divas' Invitingly?

No...too sexual...wrong frame of mind!

Sorry, I was watching "Lord of The Rings" and I like the blonde girl...the elf girl comes in second?

(I'm lonely!)

Social Security Disability Income...SSDI..very simlilar to the iron maiden..torcher device...

I don't mind being on it but...it takes hell out of your love life!

Who wants a man who can't put the pants on the family? I'm only 43 and in my prime! If I cut my super long hair and giant beard..I'd be 20...kidding...(about the long hair and beard!)

Never thought of doing that? What a life!..going to overpass to overpass..no home...tin cup for money...sell everything I have and have a pocket notebook computer...broadband!

Naw!

It makes us fixed income basket cases look bad. and, why do I have an ad of "Body Shape" on the side of screen...I can't see her eyes...which is the best place to understand the beauty of a women...because everything shines out from within!

Message body! What is with the sexual inuendo's?

MY answer...sorry...if you look perfect?..you must be CG effects. Where is the real women who looks like the girl "next door"?

They have emotions and dreams and lovability...

Ad: Looking for woman: Must meet these criteria?

Looks? Do you mean body? yes, must have one..specifics..extremely flexable

Mind? Yes..must have a mind! Instincts important. IQ flexible.

Cold? I am a heating device! IF you are cold, I will be on floor, off the bed in my sleep and that is scary...(the fall, I mean)...MUst have coach! Can't fall...cuddle all you want...

It's like having a teddy bear...but...it cuddles you!

Must be able to endure OCD, generalised Anxiety Disorder and Deep Depression.

Deep depression = loneliness...can be cured.

Anxiety...good point...if there is something to worry about, i am several steps ahead to solve the problem.

OCD...worrying...and slightly anti-social. Meaning...I need space for myself...and, expect the same of you! After a qhile...I need company and together...for a long time...then...space again!

I'm hopeless?