This is how i beat HOCD (happy Kevin?)

Hi,

I am not into HOCD but I had OCD. I have completely come out of it. How I have come out, all the steps I have mentioned in a website...

http://www.freewebs.com/ocdcured

Charan

Thank you for this, it really helped. My hocd is really starting to bother me. What's worse is that I currently have a crush on this girl friend of mine (Im a guy) yet I still have this hocd.. It can get really hard, and theres honestly tons of stuff going on in my life besides this, so this just makes it worse. And I know its an irrational fear because I know I'm straight, but the hocd wont go away. Things can get hard, but with God anything is possible. Thanks

Also, like it was mentioned, you are going to want to check.. really bad. But dont, one thing I have realized is that the best way to truly check, is to not check, and ignore these thoughts. Once you have other things on your mind and you are simply going around normally going through your day you will realize how irrational your hocd is. Remember that even though you know its irrational it wont go away, no matter how much you prove to yourself that you are straight the thoughts and doubts will keep coming until you simply ignore these thoughts and just laugh at them. Remember to always put your own mind in front of your hocd mind, it will try to trick you, it will make you doubt, but remember to use the fact that these things bother you, that they make you anxious, sick, and that you fear this. If you think about it really hocd is the complete opposite of homosexuality. Like he said use the fear to get rid of it. Also, if you believe in God, one thing that helped me a little is simply thinking about Adam and Eve. We have to remember how being straight is the pure and righteous way. And i think a lot of the fear of hocd comes from our sudden realization that homosexuality is a real thing and that we suddenly think that even we could have it. But we have to remember that God created us with the strength and knowledge to stand and be righteous, but he also gave us the freedom to fall. This freedom to choose what is evil and impure will often frighten us, but dont let it scare you, but rather see it as an opportunity to reject such things. And also remember that since He gave us the freedom to fall, standing and being righteous is also now a free choice, because you rejected that freedom to fall. The rejection of freedom is its own freedom.

Thanks so much, everything makes sense. But quick question, my mind keeps going "but what if i'm actually just fearing admitting being gay/bi because of the social stigma, and it has nothing to do with attraction?" how do i cope with that thought?

Dear Kevin,
I am a 24 year old Male who has loved girls since i was kindergarden. Id say i am about maybe 70% over it.
When you were going through your dealings with HOCD did you have gay dreams and did your HOCD add "gay" to everything? Such as, i would be thinking to myself about something and all of a sudden it would just jump into my thought. An Example would be like: Man i really like playing basketball, than all of a sudden... Man i wonder how many gay people play.. This is not something i would usually think and as soon as it hit me i went into "what was that terror"..... Could you maybe give me some advice how to either cope with it or maybe something you did to eventually get over it?

I have HOCD and i have been following your advice the best i can, i to have a porn addiction and am trying to get over it. I also had a slight bdd. I am a christian and have been praying that Jesus helps me out of this. So far he has but i am having moment where I am unsure how to go about dealing with my HOCD and your post really helped me get through some tough times. GOD Bless!

i have dealed with this for 2 years dosnt get any worse it makes you lose friends male or female and the worst lose your mind it just gets worse i cant even be at peace in my own house i feel like god isnt hearing my cry for help i used to cut and punch myself till i figured it didnt help im not some emo but when something this bad comes along i panick im 17 and need to think about getting job and g.e.d but cant with these thoughts i hate this man . every time these thoughts pop up i go full depression mode i left my house maybe 16 times in the last two years im loosing hope

Hey, i believe i have been suffering from this for about a year now. I show ALL of the symptoms above and im deathly terrified of the gay thoguhts that pop in my head. Even after knowin that this suffering is probably hocd, my brain still makes me think im gay. My brain says things like, oh you dont have hocd, you are just realizing youre gay. So my question is can a person my age have hocd, or is it just me realizing im gay? Ive never had gay thoughts before 14 and i never liked them, its so weird why my brain still thinks im a guy in denial.

hey kevin i been dealing with hocd since october and i cant seem to find girls appealing any more my axiety is low but before this i would love girls every little thing about them is this normal and if it is what do you recommend me doing to get the appeal back from girls and your method works good i dont get as much images in my head anymore and my axiety has dropped but not completely gone but im scared because it feels like most of the axiety is gone but i still haven't got the attraction towards girls any advice?

Has anyone ever noticed that once the anxiety was down , so was the irrational thoughts/fear of this terrible disease? I have a multiple occasions and during said moments was able to RATIONALLY think of the things that went through my head and laugh at it.

Perhaps from this I have identified that the anxiety itself is the pressure necessary for OCD-HOCD to resume and bother its victims.
Also .. SLEEP how large of a factor is it with OCD ?

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