by bluebell » Thu Mar 13, 2008 9:43 am
Hello ,
Have you been diagnosised with OCD by your doctor?As you mentioned above ,you have been disturbed with these feelings for a long while ,well then ,how long exactly have you been?and what kind of therapy have you gone through ?As to the medication treatment ,we should realize that the feelings such as anxiety ,depression,OCD ,and so on are all normal psychic reactions of human .And when this kind of feelings or thoughts come to you too frequently and affect you seriously,there is definitely something wrong with your mentation .Though meds can alleviate symptoms to some extent , the truth is youd better seek your salve where you get your sore..Cus the age of 14 years old happen to be in adolescence ,almost everyone of us have experienced that just like you do during this period .After the adolescence starts,the personality is demanded to form a sense of integrity and unification of ourself .However ,there is a speed difference between physical and psychological development ,which entails a conflict between oneness of myself and puzzling roles .On the one hand , teenagers ‘ arousing of instinct will post some problems .On the other hand , more importantly ,teenagers will feel confused in the present of new social demand soscial conflict .So the main task during asdolescence is to establish a new oneness and the impression in the others’ eyes ,and the mental position in social group.This sense of oneness is also a inceasingly enhanced confidence inside of you.,a kind of inherent continuity and oneness (the psychic inner self of a individual ). If this sense of inner self matches to the impression in the eyes of others,it is obvious that the life of this person will be more colorful and bright.During this time ,teenagers are specially concern about the image of themselves in the mind of others ,meanwhile some thoughts and ideas which objectively exist will emerge in the result of instinct on the upsurge .All these thoughts and ideas are natural with the physical development.
It is just like , a potato could grow up to be round, also it can be grotesque in shape .No matter what it is like ,potatos with all kinds of shapes are outcome of nature .We think them abnormal just because we may never saw things like this before or it never appeared in the education we have received since our childhood .We think they are unacceptable and deny them which we think will blot our good image in the eyes of others.In the process of acting negtively to them we use up too much energy and pay too much attention .That results in the negative psychic energy become more and more powerful .If we go on like this ,a kind of habitual conditioned response will be established.Then it will be more difficult to eliminate the negative psychic energy. The emergence ,development ,and fadeaway of this objective and negative energy utterly observe the rules in this material world.It is impossible that it disappear right away.
We have to understand ,that we should relearn to observe this objetive fact which is out of our control .Synchronously, we’d better learn that our psychology often cause self-defeating result .It has been proved that psychology often fan the flames of unrest inside and stir up the trouble . Our wishful thinking is useless . The negtive psychic energy will counteract the energy used to keep our daily life in peace.And the wrong goings-on in mind will maintain that negtive energy and develop it .
One of rules of psychology is the more you fear something ,the closer you will get to it .The more you wanna be in good mood ,the more you will in bad shape.On the contrary ,when you don’t fear them any more ,they will disappear gradually.
Be concerned about what you should .Do what you need to do . I hope you will soon be out of difficulties .