I need honest feedback. I am so desperate and scared. For reference I am a 19 year old female.
When I was 11 to 14 years old I got into heavy porn use. I used have roleplay with pedophiles and read/watch loli, cub and shota porn regularly until I learned it was a tools used by groomers and I forced myself to stop. I learned that pedophiles are ashamed of their attraction but that they are comforted by their thoughts. What if that's me? I don't have fantasies but I get so scared I'm repressing them.
I recently quit porn together because I just got worse and worse intrusive thoughts. Even then my porn habits were a bit scary because they were mostly, cheating porn, babysitter and professor/student stuff. I don't have any urges towards children nor do I feel attraction to them but I have been increasingly worried that somehow I have turned into a pedophile.
I don't even think non offending pedophiles are the worst people in the world, I think they need help and to stay far away from kids. I just don't want to be one and am not attracted to kids. Sometimes I'll try and test my attraction to kids or I'll look at a kid and get an intrusive thought that makes me want to vomit.
I recently learned that porn addiction isn't real and everyone I have spoken to, hasn't gone as far as I have. I used to work with kids but I quit as I feel so anxious around children.
Sometimes I think "maybe I am a pedophile and I'm just in denial" and that thought really scares me. Today all I have done is confess this and everyone has reassured me I am not one but it just scares me much. I feel like I can't be sure of my attraction to anyone anymore. Everyone I have had a crush one that was age appropriate, I look back and wonder if I was just coping or something. I have a boyfriend who is a couple years older than me, I am very attracted to him, or so I think. I genuinely want to marry him and have kids with him. I can't eat anymore, all I do is worry and check and research.
I have had OCD like moments before, towards my brother and father. I also was very worried that my parents would go to hell when I was a kid and I would pray every night that they wodould be saved. I just want someone to tell me if they think I'm a pedophile or not. I am currently waiting on therapy as well.