How do I know if it's OCD or gender dysphoria?

Snaga wrote:I would try to ignore the questions after the first 'No', if it were me. OCD tries to draw me into an argument which I won't be able to win.

Not only does it draw me into an argument, it pretty much holds me at the throat.

I remember that even before the whole trans obsession, when I was coming to terms with being gay, I'd be afraid of anything related to overt femininity or drag. I never looked in the mirror and thought "I'm not being who I really am" or anything. I only started wondering if I had body dysphoria when the initial intrusive thoughts of "you need to be a girl to have a boyfriend" began.

I can't remember any examples of legitimate gender dysphoria or wanting to be a girl in my past. Yet in my head I keep overanalyzing my memories to look for clues. No matter what, it ends up with "well that's obviously a clue that you're trans!" no matter the evidence otherwise.

youllgetoverit wrote:you need to be a girl to have a boyfriend

Interesting thoughts...

Before political correctness overtook the halls of academia and the DSM, one reason it was believed some males would seek transition was for being gay and having this feeling that to express that, they had to be women. Which, were I to say that in GID, would pull the fury of Hell down upon me, but that makes it no less a possibility for some people.

And you have a community of detransitioners, who are of course despised by the orthodoxy, as traitors, I suppose. Who came to the realization that there were other issues at play that made them believe they were transgender.

If something like this is going on, then don't let your OCD convince you that your have to change yourself.

I’m sorry you are still struggling. I am battling this theme too and it is horrid. It is literally making my life a misery and I can’t take it.

I recently posted a new topic into this forum regarding this. I kind of followed your story in 2015/16, and I had the same fears as you, but I didn't turn out to be trans. In fact, you'll find out you're cis as well, but I hope it'll be sooner than later, because I remember how debilitating those thoughts can be. Reassurance is not what you need, but I'll give it to you anyway: you will find out, just like me, that you're not trans.

Lisa1989 wrote:I recently posted a new topic into this forum regarding this. I kind of followed your story in 2015/16, and I had the same fears as you, but I didn't turn out to be trans. In fact, you'll find out you're cis as well, but I hope it'll be sooner than later, because I remember how debilitating those thoughts can be. Reassurance is not what you need, but I'll give it to you anyway: you will find out, just like me, that you're not trans.

That's what I honestly hope.

That thread that I just posted in, where the guy, even after starting therapy/meds, still has spikes, worries me, but I want to try it out myself when I have the resources/time.

I keep getting spikes out of nowhere; talking with a friend about character designs for a female character in a story I'm writing gives me a weird "light" feeling, but I don't know if that's a repressed "trans" feeling or it's just mid morning and I'm finally feeling awake after getting up early.

I constantly analyze things to get reassurance that I'm not trans. I want it to stop.

Clarifying something I said earlier.

When I see a picture of a woman with a nice dress or outfit, it makes me feel nice. But I don't want to wear women's clothes. I just appreciate it on an aesthetic level.

What else could that mean?

youllgetoverit wrote:When I see a picture of a woman with a nice dress or outfit, it makes me feel nice. But I don't want to wear women's clothes. I just appreciate it on an aesthetic level.

What else could that mean?

Doesn't have to mean anything... I thought one of the whole points behind women's fashion, for most of recorded history, was to gain the attention of the male of the species. I think it's meant to be appreciated.

I've been having similar intrusive thoughts that I am worried aren't intrusive thoughts anymore. I posted a few days ago and no one has responded to me yet. I keep worrying I'm not feminine enough, keep getting 'feelings' about my body and gender identity. I've had this theme before and it went away, but it's come back. Does it coming back mean it's real?
I am really confused. Please someone help me