How? OCD and sex

Hello, excuse me, I would like to ask how to develop the sexual part in a relationship with a man who has OCD.. What are your experiences? What has helped? Any tips, advices, sharing, would be greatly appreciated..

We haven't started anything yet, but he said he wanted to start. He is 32 years-old man who hasn't really had intimacy before. Just once, and he said the woman he was with tried giving him oral sex and he wasn't sure if he liked it because he feels mouths shouldn't go on that part of another body... Is there anyway he could enjoy this? He seems to be afraid of contamination (he washes his hands very much, doesn't go to public toilets, wouldn't sleep on a hotels sheets or pillows -he needs to bring his own. So, is there a way of him actually getting more comfortable with oral sex done to him?

Are there things I should know about the moment when we finally do it (the sex part)? As women get wet when excited, I am not sure what will happen... Those are body fluids, are they gross for somebody with OCD?

I love him, I take things calmly, and I am super patient, to the point I don't mind how good or bad our sexual life is, but I do hope I can give him that sense of pleasure, even if it is just caresses.. But I am not very experienced either.. Any tip is appreciated!!

Kind wishes.

Wow. Well it's going to depend on what he thinks is gross, and if it ties in with his OCD... it's not a once size fits all thing.

It sounds very much as if this is something that y'all will find out as you go. Hopefully he'll become comfortable with sexual contact.

I'm not to keen on receiving oral from a woman (male physiology, here), simply because I'm self-conscious at being the recipient of singular attention, although I'm quite fond of giving it as long as my idea of reasonable 'freshness' is met. But then I don't have an unreasonable aversion to sexual fluids in a long term partner.

I don't have a particular aversion to germs, but what aversions I do have to real or imagined pathogens, familiarity breeds tolerance... hopefully it'll be that even though he seems quite averse to things like public toilets, bedsheets etc., in his mind you might not be a source of anxiety.