OCD/PTSD predicament regarding tribes, groups, Maslow

Let me start by saying that I have fairly severe OCD, especially as it pertains to obsessive internal thought (don't necessarily have physical rituals or counting or cleanliness, just thoughts that I can't get out of my head. I also have PTSD from a traumatic situation that happened about six years ago.

We're all social creatures of course, and I was recently studying up on what makes humans "tick." This ended up bringing me to Abraham Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs. Back in '43, the famous psychologist put together a pyramid of just what exactly our species needs, from most important at the bottom (food, shelter, water, etc.), going up from there...



Third on this pyramid is "love and belonging." This got me to thinking - obviously we humans NEED love and belonging, no doubt about that. We need families, groups/tribes, romantic love, and everything else similar. But what if I think we have it, but don't? I think to my group of friends or "tribe" - we help each other out. But, what if I realized we were only part of that group because I pretended to act a certain way? Or, what if I had a piece of information about my life that, if I told them, would exclude me from the group? As long as the information is kept secret, I remain part of the tribe of course. Or do I? I have some friends who subscribe to dated, "conservative," "far right" beliefs, and I feel like if they knew certain "secrets" of my life, they might kick me out of the tribe. Other parts of my life wouldn't gel with certain friends of mine who are more "liberal" or "on the left." So, am I really in the group?

Maybe it depends on the person. Some people would still consider the love or place in the group to be REAL even considering the fact that secrets exist, some wouldn't.

I suppose my OCD fear is that somehow (and I know it's irrational and ridiculous), whether my friends ever "find out" the secret or not, the existence of the secrets will cause
to be "kicked out" of my tribe, ending my ability to have love and belonging, and perhaps even my ability to survive and collect basic resources altogether.

And I also wonder, why wasn't the specific answer concerning the question of "Is a tribe still a tribe is secrets exist among gentlemen members that could end the tribe if a member ever found out?" discussed my Maslow in his literature?! Logically I know why (he just didn't go that specific), but my OCD/PTSD won't let me just leave the topic alone.

Thank you for any help on this!