Fear of being arrested

Hi everyone!

I have OCD, more specifically what some would classify as real event OCD.

i am beyond terrified that past events will somehow lead to me being arrested even though i'm not a bad person and have not really done much.
6 years ago while visiting the U.S as an exchange student i was 17 years old, and as many teenagers do i decided to masturbate in a toilet stall at the after school club i was a member at. Now i know for a fact that i didn't do it because i wanted to be seen or because i am a pedophile.. but i can't stop worrying that i will get into trouble over it

My OCD is also focusing intensly on another memory from that year... the age of consent in the state is 18, i didn't realise that but me and 2 friends (2 guys 1 girl) were thinking about having a threesome, i then found out that it would be illegal so i called it all off.. Even though nothing happened i am still scared that some prosecutor would charge me with some sort of conspiracy to commit charge..

My deal is pretty much, i think to myelf that what i've done was wrong.. so i research US laws until i find something that fits what i''ve done, and then i obsess over it.

Does anyone else deal with this? How do i deal with these fears given that they are so real? Or am i just a criminal who deserves to end up in jail?

It should be noted that the age of consent in the state is 18.. and i was 17, the girl 16 and the other guy 19 hence it being illegal.

Hi,

LanternJack wrote:6 years ago while visiting the U.S

Where do you reside nowadays?

Yes, to me that sounds very much as an Obsessive Compulsory Disorder.

Or have you damaged anyone? Has anyone been insulted, offended? Until now I could not find any hints for that.

Keep in mind, that even in the U.S. prisoning costs a lot of money, and they won't pick people at random for private masturbation, that would be also unlawful and costly.

And if you live outside the U.S.: the CIA is not coming abroad with a commando unit, to abduct you to a secret prison and waterboard you and fly you with a hood to the U.S. for a masturbatory act 6 ys ago. And you were a minor, also.

You really have a OCD condition. I am sorry to see your pain.

I live in Denmark, 23, married and with a kid on the way.

Pretty sure that nobody ever got hurt, i tried my best to conceal myself, hence why i did it in a bathroom stall with the door locked. I never noticed anyone "catching" me.

Nobody got hurt or offended with the suggested threesome, heck i'm almost 100% sure that i am the only who remembers..

I fear that the u.s will have me extradited.. as i type all this out i know how stupid it all sounds.

The thing is.. i KNOW that i am not a bad person... but the laws which i can potentially be charged under is stuff like "sexual conduct with a minor" and "luring a minor". I haven't actually done ANY of those horrible things... but it can be applied to the situations described above..
This is horrible.

LanternJack wrote:i KNOW that i am not a bad person...

Last time I checked all humans were bad persons. The more someone states him being a good character, the more suspicious he becomes in my eyes. Maybe you should rethink if there are legit reasons for your bad conscience.

LanternJack wrote:I fear that the u.s will have me extradited..

I advise you to go the US embassy straight and report your felonies frankly, and turn yourself in voluntarily. And ask for a just, not for a mild sentence.

Clear up the matter once and for all. Face your fears. And if you go to penitentiary, then your fears will probably be cured, and you will return a stronger, maybe even a better man!

As i have already stated, i haven't really done anything wrong. I just aspire to be a good person..
All i am guilty of is masturbating, and being drawn to the idea of a threesome..

To rid yourself of legal consequences of your questionable excesses, you could take your family and escape from the henchmen of the U.S. to a remote area, and assume false identity.

Doesn't Greenland belong to Denmark?

It should be relatively easy for you to go there. Plus the U.S. bloodhounds will never suspect, that you flee towards them, and hide even close to Northamerica.

Please keep your responses helpful. Many times "real world" solutions for people with OCD are counter-productive, like telling someone with "HOCD" something like, "maybe you are really gay?".

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