I need help. Please. *Trigger Warning*

Whats happening to all of you i can explain. OCD will give you thoughts from time to time, mostly disturbing unnecessary thoughts, for example you might see a young kid like you said, and for a moment had a sick thought, now here is the difference with OCD and non OCD.

non OCD: A person without OCD DOES HAVE THESE THOUGHTS, but the difference with them is they understand its just a thought and simply move on.

OCD: A person with OCD when they get a thought like this, it turns into an obsession, the thought stays for longer and you question every aspect of it for example:
1. Why DID i even think that AM I SICK?
2. I must be crazy, im a pedo.
3. WHY DID i feel aroused by that??

Now ill explain why this all feels real like ive said in many other posts, OCD will always, always, latch onto your emotional mind. For example you have a thought a perverted thought, and you may feel aroused by it, because the OCD will interfere with your emotional mind and make it feel real. What you need to do to overcome this is recognize that, and question yourself with logic based on your behavior, for example if you get the thought, im a pedo for example:
1. You arnt a pedo because a pedo thinks what he does is normal.
2. You are here questioning yourself out of fear, so you fear it, proving you wouldn't do it.

I'm pretty sure what your told dosnt make you feel better or it isn't enough, but that's because like i said the OCD makes you feel that way, you need to train your mind to use logic over knowing who you are over OCD lies.

PM me for anymore questions happy to halp

No, you are NOT a pedophile; you are an abuse victim and were sexualized at a young age which has led to a lot of trauma and emotional turmoil. Maybe you could discuss this and the OCD with a counsellor or therapist?

Okay, the difference between OCD and non OCD is clear. But why does that mean that just because it's OCD it's not the truth? Like, every time someone says "you're not Trans, this is OCD" why can't I have OCD and be Trans?

Lisa1989 wrote:Okay, the difference between OCD and non OCD is clear.

Here you state there is a clear distinction between OCD and non OCD.

Lisa1989 wrote:But why does that mean that just because it's OCD it's not the truth? Like, every time someone says "you're not Trans, this is OCD" why can't I have OCD and be Trans?

Here, you are insinuating that both can exist (when they can't - unless the OCD issue is not about being trans).




Contradiction flag. Free kick for the moderator!

Who's to say that Obsessions/intrusive thoughts, aka, the things we fear, aren't true? I still think I'm Trans and feel masculine and not feminine enough and there is little evidence that would point to me being a woman, and while the thought popped up randomly I thought I had plenty of evidence to base it on that it might be true. And that's the scariest thing ever. Because what does it help if I want to be a woman and be happy with a man when I don't have a choice? I mean, I might have a choice, but what if I'm denying myself happiness because I'm too scared to transition?
Actually, I would love to just feel like a complete woman again, and I'm not sure if I ever did, didn't notice anything Trans, but so many things from my past suggest that I'm not a woman and don't deserve to be one. I also know there's a spectrum - but I don't even want to be genderqueer or a "little" Trans. I want to be cis. And I hope to god - if he exists - that when I say this its the truth and this my true desire.

-- Sat Dec 12, 2015 5:44 pm --

And mrme, no cognitive behavioural therapist would recommend you do this:
"I'm not a pedo, because pedos wouldn't worry about this."
It's a compulsion. Even if it seems logical and helpful. You're trying to neutralize when you do this.


Everything you use to calm yourself down - even if it's logic (doesn't work with OCD) is neutralizing and will only result in another intrusive thought regarding this very theme.

-- Sat Dec 12, 2015 5:47 pm --

PS: it doesn't help that I suffer from GAD too. So I will catastrophize everything anyway. Like, I seriously think: "Dont fool yourself, why do you think you would enjoy the privilege to be cis? You can't be cis, because that's just your luck and there are so many people with gender dysphoria - a lot more ever since its been "accepted", so the world is full of Trans people - don't for one minute think that you would be so lucky as to not be trans."
Yep.