HOCD almost caused me to kill myself.

postbreakupstruggles wrote:

Shadowking58 wrote:

postbreakupstruggles wrote:It did and still does. But nix it with a positive mind set. I just did. Heck I used to masturbate to Maria sharapova (I played tennis and tennis fan) in tight shirts and shorts.

Use your past. If you were always into women, this is just OCD doubting yourself. And you just solved something. Your "responders" are anxiety. Not happy arousals.

If I were to beat the OCD, and the gay thoughts still continued, would that mean anything? I don't think so.

Nope. It wouldn't bc it's a thought. Heck I get thoughts of reaming out my boss who took forever to get me an approval to apply for a promotion. I didn't do it. I wanna punch people in the face occasionally but I don't do it. It's not me. I get thoughts that I'd fall off a ladder putting away seasonal furniture. Doesn't happen.

And these HOCd thoughts are uncomfortable. I know I would never act on them bc they don't seem right and natural to me. I have a gay friend from college. Good friend. Myself him and my roommate met freshman year and we were great friends. We always had some sort of idea he wasn't like me and my roommate. He'd stay with the girls and have girl talk while we would watch the games on Sundays. He would always shy away from hooking up with girls when he had the opportunity. He came out when he was 20. Two years ago a bunch of us were at the bar. He was with some dude who he was dating. They were grabbing each others Groinal areas and making out on the dance floor. I almost threw up when I saw it.

That feeling does not change my friend. Just recently my hocd means I am in self doubt/confidence in myself and over thinking everything. A lot of it has to do with the break up. The girl I was with broke me down with saying I wasn't man enough nor do manly things. I realized she was crazy.

postbreakupstruggles wrote:I still masterbate but not compulsively. After a long days work I get in the mood and without sitting there the thought of sex with a female gets me going. It's when other important things on your mind like work, the thought of sex gets the juices flowing for a break.

Shadowking58 wrote:

postbreakupstruggles wrote:I still masterbate but not compulsively. After a long days work I get in the mood and without sitting there the thought of sex with a female gets me going. It's when other important things on your mind like work, the thought of sex gets the juices flowing for a break.

But even if I never had a girlfriend before. My desire is to be with a women, and in the end I guess that's all that really matters, it can't change, right?

postbreakupstruggles wrote:

Shadowking58 wrote:

postbreakupstruggles wrote:I still masterbate but not compulsively. After a long days work I get in the mood and without sitting there the thought of sex with a female gets me going. It's when other important things on your mind like work, the thought of sex gets the juices flowing for a break.

But even if I never had a girlfriend before. My desire is to be with a women, and in the end I guess that's all that really matters, it can't change, right?

Nope. How old are you? I'm a bit down in the dumps some days when I'm not in a relationship. All my friends have settled down and I'm a bit lonely some times. That's when I get the occasional spike.

Put yourself out there and hit on someone. You'll feel better.

postbreakupstruggles wrote:Yeah I was like that too. I was just out saw another younger dude and got a little anxiety however this banging hot woman walked by and I couldn't take me eyes off of her. It like natural to me.

Stop thinking about sex in general. Honestly what really convinced me I have OCD was at work I'm friends with a few gay people. It doesn't turn me on. I look how they react and how they deal with their significant others I get a little weirded out.

Get a hobby. I workout 6 days a week and that clears my head. Open up to looking for a gf. If you get an uncomfortable thought about another male , just say weird thought. Ask yourself would I act on it?

I idolize James Bond for example. When I see him in movies I think "what a boss". I wanna look like that. That's not sexual. That's not homo sexual. That's what males do. They compare with other males for competition so there is attraction. I was at once intimidated by other males bc I felt they had more to offer the females than I did.

Once you get outta that state of mind you'll be golden.

Jed wrote:Hey shadowking, just wanna tell you that yes it is totally normal to feel like you're losing your attraction towards women when you're dealing with this sort of thing. When anxiety floods your system, your libido gets wonky and makes it seem like you're not as attracted to women anymore - could be for any number of reasons, but it all stems from your anxiety. Besides, have you heard of someone spontaneously losing their attraction to the opposite sex? And don't take my word for it, there's tons of HOCD articles written by experts that corroborate this.

Good luck.