seeking treatment and help for obsessive love disorder

I'm a 20 year old male, and I believe I have obsessive love disorder (along with pre diagnosed bipolar disorder) and very much need treatment. I'm currently in my first relationship with a girl whom I feel I've been in love with since very soon after meeting her, almost 2 years ago. I've always had borderline-stalker tendencies with her (facebook stalking, obsessive texting and calling (or extreme anxiety buildup to the point of "losing it" because I want to talk to her so bad but she won't)) and other girls I've felt feelings for, and it's all increased since we got together. Before our relationship, I was constantly depressed and lonely due to lack of a significant other and always wanted one, especially her because when I first met her and felt these feelings, they were different than anything I'd ever felt before. Maybe it was because she paid some kind of attention to me, although we never did anything since she was dating my friend at the time. 2 years later, I've lost over 100 pounds and significantly increased my self esteem (or so I think). She was my biggest motivation for losing it. And now, we're together. It was like a dream come true. But I find myself getting obsessive, and it's causing extreme strain on both of us personally as well as our relationship. I want to change, I want to not think about her every second of every day. I want to be healthy so we can be happy with each other, instead of me freaking out when she isn't giving me attention. Because one thing I do feel is that deep down, under all my ###$ up-ness, I truly believe I love her with all of my heart. My insecurities and low self esteem get in the way of that, but I really do think I have true feelings of love for her and that we can sustain a happy, healthy relationship. Please offer any advice, help, or direction you can.

Unfortunately I can't offer any advise as I too am worried about possibly suffering from OLD but I'm sure there will be someone who can help, that's what I'm counting on

I'm going to try and give you some advice, it's up to you what you think of it. It seems to me like you are scared of losing her. You like the feeling she gives you, of course you do not want to lose that. The quickest way to lose her is by doing exactly what you're doing, I've done it. No one likes being smothered, there are healthier ways to give someone attention. If I were you, I would ease up on the attention, be yourself. It will ease up on the stress, she will start giving you more attention and you'll both be happier. She obviously likes you enough to be with you for two years, so you probably don't need to be over the top about getting her attention. Focus on you, staying healthy, keeping off your weight. You will feel better, your self-esteem will feel better, and she will radiate towards you as you're being a positive person. It's a win-win. When you get caught up keeping tabs on someone, you start to lose track of yourself. Your image, appeal, self esteem, talents, sometimes hygiene, suffer. You lose the initial factors that made the person fall in love with you in the first place. So on top of all that if you're addicted to annoying her and stalking her, you become the perfect candidate for a breakup. And it seems to me like you might not want that. My new outlook for myself is to try and be an honest, best version of myself that I can be, hoping that it creates more genuine long-lasting friendships and relationships. It might sound cliché but tell her how you feel, I assume this has been brought up but you should really tell her what bothers you in the most polite way possible, and try and work something out. Hope any of this helps.

Too much of everything kills. So I would suggest you to try to divert your attention in some other ways. Try to perhaps socialize more, be with friends from time to time and just hang out.

Obviously what you are doing is not healthy and you'll end up losing her. You have to accept that there will come a time that you will have to fight and argue and perhaps need some time off. This is how every healthy relationship goes.

It would be quite hard to change what you are. I have been there. But the easiest way to fix it is to start loving yourself more. This way you will be more confident to everything and you won't be too obsessive to make anyone love and not leave you.

There is no other person who can love you as much as you. Believe me, by loving yourself more, you can turn things around. People will see how a nice person you are- full of positivity- and they will love you back.

I hope that helps.