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what's a good, easy book that'll help a narcissist understand that they have a problem? or just on the topic in general if that's asking too much.

also, another for how to cope with living with one.

thanks.

Hi, I'm new.
After months of research and reading, I'd appreciate some feedback from the wealth of candid perspective you all provide.

I'm an english teacher and trainer, he's an ex-student, "friend" ex-virtual playmate, whose games I naively misinterpreted.
We're both married, in our mid-40's, and he's been my on-again off-again private English student for years. I've felt hurt and bewildered by the superficiality of his games, his insensitivity to my humanity, his lack of ...

The reason I say this is because I seem to share traits or actions of most of the personality disorders. And since this is the most popular of the personality disordered forums I think I'd like to share many of the traits I have with you.

From the ASPD:


impulsivity or failure to plan ahead

consistent irresponsibility, as indicated by repeated failure to sustain consistent work behavior or honor financial obligations

lack of remorse, as ...

There is something I am curious about regarding the narcissists spouses or partners.

Why do you almost always return to the narcissist after leaving him/her? Why do some of you never leave?

I mean I can understand it to a very small degree that you do not leave them when you do not know what he/she is. But why stay after you have proof in a sense that there is no point in staying?

Is ...

Have a great time hogging all of the turkey, stuffing, and cranberry sauce for your greedy narcissistic selves on this day of generocity and grace!

Hi.. I have a question,
Since members here are well learned in the tricks and habbits of people with NPD, when people claiming to have NPD show up, what is their typical treatment? Since any requests for help and advice are likely in self interest (since as it goes that no one with NPD genuinely wants to change as subconciously they believe they're perfect), and probably just a search for validation or something, is it ...

I just found out my “N” girlfriend had being seeing another guy… She accidentally gave me his email address. She has the full-blown NPD… Messed me up! Still messed up! I just sent him an email, and told him what NPD was all about. He can make his own decision what he would like to do. I wish someone warned me like this! Looks like she cheated on me more than once! I gave him ...

Hi, I'm new here.

I came here searching for some kind of answer.

Cause everything I read about narcissists so far seems to be negative, doesn't feel very good.

So I come here looking for some guidance and all I find is people trashing narcs like they're monsters..

I'm also bipolar, was crying like a baby earlier, didn't feel better about myself when I came here reading about how I'm evil, how there's no help, ...

howd u feel if people stereotyped normal people into categories
their stupid, immoral, weak, unintelligent

howd u like that u big douches?

also not all narcissists are dicks--yes all have the same characteristics: no empathy, bad relationship, acting stuck up--but many are wonderful helpers to the community, good friends, and people who are just 'good' people even if their nature doesnt suggest it

stereotyping is wrong, especialyl when said narcissist cant do anything about being ...

My (I believe HPD or NPD) ex has recently had a lot of success getting attention as a performer in terms of audience, press etc. He's in a relationship with the woman he was seeing before me. I'm happy for him and hope it will contribute to his self-esteem improving. You think that may be the case? Or will it just enable his flailing and attention-seeking further?
When we were together his success had just ...