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On the lighter side, one of my Nmom's most glaring narcissistic traits is how she tells stories with little or no empathy for the people listening to them. She clicks into a stream-of-consciousness mode and rambles endlessly about frivolous, tedious details that could only possibly matter to her.

This is a pretty minor offense compared to some of her other stunts like lying and manipulation. And now that I'm clued in about what is going ...

So Currently the three girls iv been playing have caught on and are angry at me. Its not like I care if they leave but what really makes me ######6 angry is that THERE the one ending it. Usually I have all that power and end it with THEM. But the thing is all of these individuals are in my same work place and now I feel just...pure anger. I feel like they took all ...

So I'm hoping this is the last post I ever write about my narc ex...

After coming back to me with his pleadings of how hurting me was the biggest mistake else ever made, how he loved me so much etc.... I have him a chance, anyway of course it all went wrong...

I tried to initiate no contact the only way I felt I could... I sent him a message saying I was not ...

I think Narcissistic Supply is a largely misunderstood term, inasmuch as sometimes I don't even understand it fully. A gross simplification of Narcissistic Supply would go something like this: Narcissistic Supply is some kind of attention given to the Narcissist that makes the Narcissist feel special. That's what it boils down to when you remove all the psychobabble. The Narcissist seeks either positive attention --- applause, adoration, adulation, admiration --- that confirm that he is ...

Thanks to forum member shadyh89 for the comment that prompted this post.

Question to the Nons: Where there things that your N said throughout your time together that were rare glimpses of the truths they try so desperately to hide from all? Of course hindsight is 20/20, and most of us had no idea what was to come in full IMAX living color later.

Here are some things that were hints of the truth of ...

A lot of you claim to have had great childhoods but to me npd seems like the biggest dissociation ever. Your minds are pretty good at fooling...yourself and others.

Both wounded but having opposite reactions so that they are a bizarre fit. Where bpd is very empathetic / npd is unempathetic. Where bpd hates and loathes themselves / npd only self -loves. Where bpd attaches and clings / npd can move on instantaneously.

I wonder whether NPDs and BPDs are attracted to each other because they are both obsessed with "winning" in a relationship context.

ie. the NPD needs to "win" by obtaining love, supply, worship and the BPD needs to "win" by avoiding abandonment and they go round and round in circles. one pursuing, one withdrawing, the other pursuing, the other withdrawing.

The trouble is that neither can "win" because what is a "win"?

For example, take ...

Does anyone know why we get addicted to our Narcs? I know darn well something happened to my brain during this ordeal. It felt like I was addicted to a drug. I could feel waves of sickness washing over my body when I was deprived of him, and when he was around I was euphoric. It was down right crazy. I had physical withdraws that drove me to my knees for years after he "left". ...

My father has truly done something unthinkable. :shock: For supply he is desperately trying to move my CO-dependent aunt in with us for supply. He's running around looking for a bed right now. This is maddening. The man is a psychopath, and my mom is blind(not literally). He just recently kicked her out of the house for trying to help him stop smoking. Now i'll be living ...