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From my response to another post in this thread..

The easiest way I can help nons understand narc actions, is that we live in the absolute moment most all of the time.. The past is the past and the future involves us alone. You may be in a relationship with us, albeit it is our relationship with ourselves that you are in. Your purpose? Simply to be there for us when we desire for you ...

This is mostly in retrospect, though I can still see it in his behavior towards me (we haven't spoken in over two months). What makes a covert narcissist want a particular persons approval? I mean, it's not like I'm the Virgin Mary or something. Does it psychoanalytically have something to do with his relationship with his mother? At the same time, he seems to have a fantasy about me "serving" him. Or at least he ...

How to counteract a smear campaign when the proof he's lying is highly private stuff I have too much loyalty/decency to show? I've lost 20 friends over this, my remaining ones in common with him are either taken in by him or are saying "get over it" while staying his friend, and I'm having panic attacks/suicidal thoughts over this. NO one is even willing to go to him saying "I know this info exists" cause ...

I've learned a lot here and I thank those who have been open and honest with me. I can't leave without saying this though...No one may listen or care or you already may know it... but I feel it's important to say. Narcisissts or those with NPD are not superior, they are not more intelligent, they can't read people brilliantly. I have heard people say there is "there is nothing like them" (they themselves even ...

Hi all,

got a question: I found a text by Vaknin in which he claims that narcissists have a tendency to bring out narcissistic traits/behaviour in those around them. Whatever one thinks of Vaknin, this rang a bell with me. I have a tendency to attract high-class Narcs in romantic and professional capacities (courtesy of my parents I suppose) and more than once I have found myself puzzling over whether it was ME who was ...

Like when they give you a glimpse of who they really are and you responded with no contact immediately. Like they "valued" you but you responded by ignoring them completely...no pursuing, no emotional reactions, etc. Just nothing and the covert narcissist can see that you are unaffected. After two months, this particular person is still trying to get my attention (indirectly) and has even played another song for me (it is deliberate). I posted the ...

I have been here so long. Whining and whining and helping and whining. I have been sticking to my guns as far as expressing exactly my feelings to my exNarc especially when I feel I am being hurt.

Rejection is not a good place for me. I know I set myself up for it but I have had enough rejection from this dude for a lifetime. *sigh*

So, without boring you with details I basically ...

Ever since reading about "covert narcissism" I've wondered if it is actually a form of NPD, because it seemed to be almost identical to AvPD, which is not even in the same cluster as NPD. So recently I was thinking, and I formulated this hypothesis. What if "covert narcissists" are actually Aspies who developed AvPD because of their failure at social interactions? Aspergers is known to be misdiagnosed as NPD because they share some of ...

At 19 years of age, it just dawned on me that I'm a covert narcissist.. I used to just think I was an angry and defensive person (which I still am), but NPD was the last thing on my mind. At first, I thought I had BDD, but I was just being obsessed with myself. After evaluating all aspects of my life and how I process information, my thoughts, feelings.. I am 99% convinced that ...

I've learned a lot in the past couple of years. Recently i've uncovered the makeup of many, many of my family members. I'll just get to the point. Narcissists can be mentally abused by thoughs that understand what they are, or how they are. If you are in the "honeymoon" phase of a narcissistic relationship you can string along your narc indefinitely with absurd request for anything at all.

One can use the low self ...