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Hello! It's my first time on this forum and I'd like to get some opinions.

I'm 16 years old and have been pretty spoiled all my life. My parents and grandparents always tell me how good I am, how pretty I am, how nice I am, and how I'm an angel. All my life I've been given the best and have not had very much suffering at all. I think this could explain part of ...

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I'm new here. I am suffering so much pain and hurt, I cant get my head around what my N has done. I am discarded, ignored, totally abandoned and another girl is swapped into the life I had supported setting up with him. I feel so dreadful and emotionally killed.

How can a person do this to me, I'm pretty, clever, and how can someone just erase me and then give the life ...

As a diagnosed borderline (and as one who is working towards a career in the field of mental health), I am becoming thoroughly convinced that my boyfriend is a narcissist. I have detailed a list a myriad concerns, etc., but I'm more or less interested in how narcissists tend to relate to borderlines (particularly within the context of a romantic relationship). Would any of you sufferers kindly lend me some perspective or insight into this ...

I am curious what is happening in the mind of a narc in the early phases of no contact that is established by a non and when the non decides to end the relationhip? I have ended the relationship with my narc and now into day 4 with nothing except a text from him on day one saying "Hello" to which I didn't respond and a few phonecalls from private numbers which could be anyone. ...

It is hard to watch this narcissist try to get me to "like" him again. 3 months ago I stopped speaking to him. He had been disrespectful to me and when I called him on it he gave me a very cold, defensive response ending with a request for no further communication between us. I instantly respected this wish and did what I could to avoid seeing him. He responded by matching his schedule to ...

Virginias thread inspired a nice little cute explanation of the primary NPD self-defeat pattern which I think deserves it's own thread

The narcs main compulsion - image control - causes him to seek out and learn to control objects/people that will improve his image. Consequentially he gains the fear of losing control of the same objects/people in the process, making him increasingly paranoid about his image - causing the discard and devalue to remove the ...

I find that when I meet someone with whom I get along, I will often open up to them right away, sending them emails and texts in which I discuss my thoughts and feelings about things that I wouldn't tell someone I've known for 20 years, and yet here I am, telling these things to someone who I've known for 20 days. It's almost like the person becomes an extension of myself, and I view ...

Has anyone else noticed that Narcissists can objectively make themselves more attractive if they want to? As in, not just put on nice clothes and such, but change their figure, facial features etc?

My ex could do this - when he was out for supply his entire face would change until he looked like a (very handsome) statue, he seemed taller and more muscular, everything about him was chiseled to perfection.

Then he'd lose his ...

All we talk is the mental abuse narcs do. And that is bad.
But how about the physical violence, do you narcs do that?
Or have you nons experienced it with them?

I only got pinching(+mental devaluation) and sort of "playful" arm wrestling.
Im just intrested how bad it can get, or do you/they usually just stick with the mental abuse?

For me, defending myself physically was easy. Mentally not..

Just trying to add some levity to the board, and also provide information for those who have to deal with NPDs over the coming holidays.

I rarely enjoy "the holidays," meaning the Thanksgiving-Christmas set of holidays that involve travel, spending time with family members, and spending money to purchase gifts or make other people happy. I find the company to be annoying, the gift-giving to be difficult, and the travel to be irritating and financially ...