News of Grief and Loss Forum

My on/off gf of last 2 years died three weeks ago. She had been Fentanyl addict before we dated, but was not using at the time. While we dated, she sometimes used other things (coke, weaker opiates) and sometimes I approved of it as keeping her from anything harder, sometimes I disapproved.

A few times, she relapsed. She'd be out of contact for a couple days, later admit she had gotten some Fentanyl & relapsed. ...

It was the early morning of November 29th, just a couple of days after my mother's 82nd birthday. There was a loud thud, and my mother called out for my father. I was staying with them because they are both elderly and have some serious health issues. My mother had only been out of the hospital a week after 5 weeks in a variety of wards after a fall in mid-October.

I responded with my ...

It feels so unresolved. I have so many feelings. My family could be so belittling and stuff.. my brother i blv was poisoned against me. It hurts. His adult children don't talk to me. i tried to love and be there for his daughter who unblocked me on fb after he died, but she blocked me again. my family hurts me. :( Why didn't i just move ...

Hi, I'm 18yo male from Wrocław, PL. Currently struggling with OCD and depression.

I feel a huge loss because my online girlfriend left me. I met her on internet forum in April 2020. I wanted to meet her IRL on many occassions, but random things ALWAYS came up that prevented us from doing so. We fell in love very quickly. Apart from her, I also met other people who became my friends. They were all ...

I see junk hounds on the news media.
I sometimes have an unpleasant run in with one.
I don't get along with them because of my tendency to compulsively clean.
As a house cleaner, one of them kicked me out for all time.
Both in my home and elsewhere, I've looked on them with annoyance.

I lost my soul mate. He died in my arms. He was my opposite and so many ways.
This crisis ...

Is it wrong and selfish to grieve?? Shouldn't I be happy that they're gone and possibly not hurting? That they don't have to deal with the world, depression, financially, mentally, emotionally, physically, emotionally, struggling??

Missing and grieving feels narcissistic and selfish. It feels all about me instead of them.

I am not sure if this is the right forum for my issue but if not, perhaps the moderator can move it for me.

It has taken me many years to realise that I get extremely distressed at goodbyes, partings, endings, deaths, even for people I don't know and never will know.
This can happen in any form, including when watching a movie and sensing a death, a goodbye, a going away moment is coming ...

A bit of a trigger warning, I guess since for some people, it's hard to deal with. I know that this is not an easy topic, but it is something I have not been able to cope with yet. It has taken a lot out of me. It's been a few months since. Also sorry for the very long post. I sometimes don't know how to organize my thoughts very well because I was taught ...

Apologies as not sure which forum to post
Looking back over half a century and still wondering how possibly I could outrun it or why I deserved it.

1)Autism bullying from a young age

2)Parent with life changing injuries, taken weekly to visit hospital unit miles away and horrible phone calls from them weekly

3)Parents divorced and parent moved hundreds miles away.

4) parent I lived with narcissist, gaslighting liar-gave up on me and at ...

I had lost my partner since may this year. Despite trying to divorce and all, I regret it. It's probably confusing but despite how bad things were, I missed him and wish I could take it all back.